Habits For Success With G. Brian Benson
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Self-esteem and valuing yourself can help you be comfortable just being yourself and avoid being pushed around. In this episode, John Livesay, aka The Pitch Whisperer, chats with Habits for Success author, TEDx speaker, and coach G. Brian Benson about following his intuition and leaving the family business to pursue a life of balance and creativity. If you’re running out of creative juices, learn how G. Brian goes out of his comfort zone and tries different sporting endeavors that lends him excitement and a sense of accomplishment. Also discover how physical and mental clutter affects your vibrational energy and how you can operate from a healthy perspective.
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Habits For Success With G. Brian Benson
Our guest is G. Brian Benson, who is an award-winning and bestselling author on self-improvement. He’s a child’s book author, he’s a filmmaker and TEDx speaker. He is a four-time IRONMAN triathlete and cross-country bicyclist. Brian knows the value of hard work and never giving up on his dreams, a message that he shares with audiences through each of his creative expressions. Brian’s brand new book, which I’m happy to say I’ve read and loved, Habits for Success: Inspired Ideas to Help You Soar, is an Amazon number one bestseller and was selected as a 2019 Book Excellence Award in the motivational category. Brian, welcome to the show.
John, thank you. It’s a pleasure.
I like to ask my guests to tell us all their own stories of origin. You can go back as far as a kid, high school, college or wherever you want. Did you start off saying, “I want to be an actor,” or “I want to be an athlete?” How did all that begin?
I grew up in Salem, Oregon and growing up, I love sports. I love history. I was independent. I did my own thing and I was creative in different unique ways. I didn’t know what I wanted to do other than to be a Portland Trail Blazer when I was in grade school but that didn’t work out because I’m only 5’8” and probably not fast enough. I went to college, I didn’t know what I wanted to do the whole time I was there and I graduated and tried to run the family business. I did that for eleven years. I felt in the back of my mind that there was something else I was supposed to do that was my mission but I had no idea what it was at the time. After eleven years of being there, I told my dad, “I’m finished. I don’t feel I’m growing anymore and I feel I needed a new challenge.” He was understanding. I ended up taking a year to be able to leave because we decided to sell it and we had to go through that whole process, which was tough because I was ready to hit the road.
Let’s talk about that. What was the family business?
We had a golf center, which was a driving range, a retail store and a nine-hole par-three course.
You also talk about in your book, Habits for Success the importance of patience, you had to experience it and then were able to run it and live it. It’s one thing to tell people and give advice, learn to be patient. You are told you don’t have to do something you’re not passionate about and then you still have to be patient for a whole year until it gets sold, how did you find the patience for that?
It turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Not only was I ready to get going with my life, but I also picked up a staph infection in my knee, not sure how and it was misdiagnosed. It caused a lot of problems. I had to have it drain ten different times until finally, they sent me to another doctor and he said, “You need to have an emergency surgery tomorrow to wash this out or you’re going to have a problem.” It was a nightmare in that regard as well. I sat down one day while all of this was going on, contemplating my future and I knew that I was feeling out of balance. I told myself, “Write five things that you feel will help keep you in balance at this moment.”
I did that and I put the paper in my wallet and I would refer to it occasionally and it helped, my intuition said, “Expand the list and write a book.” I had never written anything before but I did that and in about six weeks, I wrote this simple little book called Brian’s List: 26 1/2 Easy to Use Ideas on How to Live a Fun, Balanced, Healthy Life!, it gave me some direction, it was interesting. I self-published it and right at about the same time that I left the business. I moved to Reno, Nevada to be with my son who was in the Tahoe area, who was entering high school and connecting with him and helping him through that process and I started to reinvent myself.
Habits For Success: Truly enjoy the process of creation and trust that it will reach an effect.
It’s curious to know what those five things are, I see them in your book. Some of them are, “That’s good.” The secret is the combination, almost like a little mini checklist or do you have something in there that I haven’t seen but most people put in? I’m going to let you tell us what the five are.
Some of them we think about that, but it’s easy to forget. One is to drink enough water. That’s a sneaky one. I made sure I was drinking enough water. Two is to make sure that I was getting enough sleep. The third one is to make sure that I was getting some daily exercise and that was tough while I was going through the knee problem, but I needed movement and that helps me. Another one is to make sure that I was getting some alone time every day because I’m outgoing but I’m an introvert and I need time to refill my cup. The final one, make sure that I was being creative. At that time, I had not got to anything that I’m doing now. I wasn’t writing. I wasn’t doing anything like that. At that time, playing my guitar was a creative outlet.
That last one is important, you’re like, “I’m going to make time to exercise and going to make time to make sure I’m hydrated, maybe even find some time I can be alone. I can go to the sleep thing, most of the time I can do that, wait a minute, am I making time to be creative? I’m putting out fires all day at work and then I feel like I do that at home.” Especially if you’re a leader or want to grow as a person. This need, just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you’re having time to be creative. There’s a difference between alone time and creative time and I wanted to double click on that.
I learned this more in my journey, which we’ll probably tap into a little bit here going forward. Creativity is important. It’s like connecting with God, the source, the universe or whatever you want to call it and it’s a form of meditation. It’s a great way to feel good about yourself. It’s a great way to slow down and just be. You don’t have to be Van Gogh if you’re painting or you don’t have to be Walt Whitman if you’re writing, but in your own special way, it’s an outlet that is important.
You said another gem there, Brian, which is let go of thinking that what you’re creating isn’t good enough to spend time doing. Don’t have any attachments to having to produce income or winning the awards or anything else. You’re creating it for you and if nobody even sees it or hears it, that’s okay.
It’s interesting because initially, that was the case. However, as I kept going down the road and creating more stuff, then I started putting more attachment to it and held more expectations to it and that started to cause some problems for me. Even though it made a difference in a lot of ways, it probably helped solidify my foundation and keep moving forward. If it didn’t do something that I felt like it was supposed to do, I’d be depressed for a couple of weeks. I went through this roller coaster of the creative process and how I was reacting to what I was creating. Finally, a couple of years ago, after releasing my first kid’s book, it had a good release but then for some reason, I don’t know what I was expecting, I ended up with this depression. I said, “If it’s going to be like this anymore, I don’t want to do it.” From there on, I tried to truly enjoy the process of creation and trust that it will reach and affect whoever it’s supposed to and the rest is out of my control.
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I’m fascinated that you used the word going on a roller coaster because I talk about that all the time, helping people get off a self-esteem roller coaster of only feeling good if their numbers are up and bad if your numbers are down. As if our identity is contingent on an outcome and then we feel like, “I’m not worth anything if I’m me. I need to have all these achievements and they have to constantly be topping myself and impressing people nonstop just to get to acceptable.” As opposed to, “Who I am is enough, whether I create something or not, whether it gets accolades or not.”
Not be obsessively checking your ranking on Amazon or how many views you got or how many likes on a social media post or whatever. You can do to constantly go like, “I’m not feeling okay about myself. I feel even worse because I didn’t get a like on something that I thought was brilliant.” It will drive you crazy. I love helping people get off that self-esteem roller coaster. You are big on intuition and then you have a line in here which is, intuition is the language of the soul. Tell us a story of how you’ve let your intuition be your guide if you don’t mind.
It’s been my guidance so much. When I first got into triathlons, I was listening to it without realizing and I was listening to it until looking back. It was definitely a watershed moment for me but I had a knee injury in college. My kneecap got knocked out of place playing mud football and it sucked. I had to have surgery and I was nervous. I played a lot of sports in high school. I set a goal to do a short triathlon when I got done to have something to look forward to while I was rehabbing. I started feeling good about myself, I lost a few pounds and started to change my life. Intuitively, I felt drawn to the sport of triathlon. I wasn’t sure why, but I even wrote my first poem and it’s not good based on a person racing the IRONMAN and this was three years before I ever did one. Once I stepped to the starting line in that first short course race in 1987, I’d finished it and I felt alive and empowered. I ended up doing four more that summer and then ten the next summer and in the third season, I did my first IRONMAN. I felt destined to do that.
You talk about how intuition can communicate with us in different ways. It could be feeling restless, which is fascinating because some people don’t realize that your intuition is trying to talk to you. This concept of even a gut feeling or sometimes you become ill. If our body is not getting our attention with the other things, it’s like, “I’m going to make you slow down enough so I could maybe get your attention to listen if you’re home with a cold or something even worse.”
Sometimes we get smacked hard because we aren’t paying attention or we’re too busy in our lives to listen to it. It’s no accident that my first book, even though it was accidental, was all those different ways to stay in life balance because it taught me how to be aware of what kept me in balance and what threw me out. Which in turn, the more that I can institute balance into my life, the easier it is to let our intuition come through.
What advice do you have for someone who’s like, “I’m not in touch with my intuition and I feel out of balance.”
I’ll definitely try to get them to start thinking about what they’re doing. Start documenting your life and try to identify it and it might take the help of a coach to help be an accountability partner and to look at it with fresh eyes to see what one might be doing. With Habits for Success, habits can work both ways. You get habits going that aren’t that healthy for us and it becomes a part of our system that we forget about anything else. You have to identify it and become more self-aware of how you’re living and then you can start to eliminate and institute different ways to go about things. That’s the best place to start.
Habits For Success: Tearing up another crumpled paper ball for the pile.
You talk about helping people get over their fear of failure and how important resilience is, any stories around your own failures and how you picked yourself back up?
For me, failing can mean a variety of things, but I’m going to jot back to what we were talking about the expectations at the ends of things. For me, I put my expectations high that when something didn’t do what it was supposed in my mind, even though it did wonderful things, I felt I was failing.
That’s an insight right there. We are mostly the ones labeling something a failure more than the outer world.
Anybody else looking from the outside and maybe the different things that are creative, they’re going, “That’s amazing,” or “How’d you do that?” I would love to have one of those things. I’m driven and I feel I know where I’m headed that it’s like I’ve got tunnel vision or I had tunnel vision. I’m trying to be patient and step back and allow things. It messed with me and it put all these undue weights on my shoulders and pressure. Failing in the traditional sense is healthy even though we can beat ourselves up and feel like failures, but it builds character. It can help us become more empathetic. It humbles us. If you’re coming with the right intentions, it can force you to dig deeper and hone something that you’re working on, maybe a blessing in disguise. It can teach us new ways to do things. Failing isn’t that bad. We make it bad, we put this stigma on it.
As opposed to, “This is feedback.”
It’s information.
This power of saying no to things you don’t want to do, a lot of people have trouble saying no. They feel guilty. They find themselves doing things that they don’t want to be doing and resenting doing it and not showing up all because they don’t want to say no. What advice can you give us on how we can break that habit of not saying no?
This could be a little bit deeper answer than you might’ve expected but it all stems from maybe, sometimes our own self-esteem. What I’ve learned, I’ve had to work hard at learning how to love it except myself. As we’re climbing that ladder, if we’re not valuing ourselves as much as we should, we will say yes to a lot of things that we shouldn’t and let people push us around a little bit, hypothetically speaking. The more that we can find that place of accepting ourselves for who we are and what we have to work with and finding the value in ourselves, it becomes easier. Everything else starts to fall into place and we start to do things that we want to do and we start to respect ourselves more.
This concept of play that we all have as a kid somehow goes out the window as we get older. You’re a parent so you probably have seen, “I can play with my kid.” That’s okay, but in the business world or when we get stressed out, the last thing a lot of people think about is, “Let’s go have some fun.” I can’t. I’ve got to worry about the bills or what somebody said to me or this deadline I have to meet. How can we remind ourselves of the importance of play and how that can help us reduce our stress and be productive?
For me, I try to hike almost every day and that’s a form of play. It puts my mind at ease. For some reason, nature has this vibration that helps us. Nature is perfection so whenever I step into it, I relax and my creative juices start flowing and as a form of exercise. It’s important to do that. If you’re in the office and you can’t get out to do that, maybe put a little Nerf hoop up or something in somebody’s office and if you get a ten-minute break, go in and shoot some baskets. There are many different things we can do that snap us out of that.
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Being a little playful, even if it’s a big meeting, there’s nothing wrong with being playful with someone so that it lightens the mood for everybody a little bit.
Figure out some little office game, pool or whatever, that gets everybody involved and that breaks the tension. What’s the point of life if we’re not getting some of that? It’s easy as a kid, but it’s even more important as an adult.
This concept, especially living in Southern California, traffic and being late and stressed out and lost, my big nightmare is being late and lost. You have a whole chapter about leave ten minutes early, tell us what that means, beyond the obvious.
In LA, it’s going to be like, “Leave a half-hour early.” Whenever we are racing to get someplace, it’s a stressful drive and not only that, you get to the place and you arrive disheveled mentally. If you can leave ten minutes early, which is not a big deal, maybe once in a while it is but switch your routine up. You can enjoy the ride over there. You go in there relaxed and everything is fine. You’re ready to go with whatever you need to do when you get there. It makes total sense to me. Especially here in LA, there’s such frenetic energy on the roads.
A lot of people feel like, “My time is not important if I’m there early waiting for someone,” or “What am I going to do?” That’s part of the weirdness for some people is, you can be alone with yourself for ten minutes and that’s a good thing, not a bad thing.
It’s frenetic enough and if you’re going to someplace late, freeways here, it’s a horrible experience.
This concept of, we all want more clarity in our lives and we certainly want clarity when we’re pitching, because the confused mind always says no. One of the things I like about what you’re talking in Habits for Success is, clarity is not just a mental thing but our environment. If our environment is cluttered, then we keep looking at that clutter and it’s difficult for our brain can feel clarity. Is that what you’re insinuating here?
Absolutely. There are many different ways that we can have clutter in our lives. Your office, if your office has papers everywhere and stuff is messy, that’s subconsciously a weight on your system. I’m all about having a tidy place. If you play a lot of music, loud music or do busy stuff, if you’ve got the TV going all the time in the background, that’s mental clutter and that’s another intuition.
I’ve always been fascinated when some people turn the TV on the minute they walk into a hotel room. I’m like, “Do you need to have that background noise the whole time?”
That’s not to say it’s okay to chill a little bit while watching TV.
Let’s have the news be our wallpaper, I’m like, “Oh boy.” There needs to be a start and a stop time for that. We don’t realize the cumulative stress that provides. The news is edited and if it bleeds, it leads, it’s a constant source of, “How can I agitate you and tell you things that are scary, whether it’s a storm or some other tragedy?” We need to be our own filter and if we’re depending on an outside source to tell us how we should be feeling, the news is not going to be the place to begin. Unless you’re onto the Own Channel or something, it’s not designed for that. It’s designed to get people to go, “Let’s pay attention so we stick around to watch a commercial.”
Everything’s vibration and there’s higher vibration stuff and lower vibration stuff. Most of the stuff we’re talking about is lower vibration and it’s hard to operate from a healthy perspective when you’ve got lower vibrational energy surrounding you.
Let’s talk about your TEDx Talk and how that came about. I think that’s a fascinating story for people and tell us what the title is and how you came up with that.
Habits for Success: Inspired Ideas to Help You Soar
The title is Be Yourself to Free Yourself (Finding Your Personal Freedom). I was aware of TEDx Talks when I was approached to do one, I have never thought about maybe doing one, but a gentleman I briefly met in Nevada rang me up when I was here in LA. He said he was curating an event and he said, “You’d be a good addition. Would you like to do it?” I didn’t know what I talked about, but I go up and said, “Yes.” I had three months to get ready and write it.
That’s not a lot of time, because the amount of work and practice that goes into that is huge.
Not only that, for some reason, the TED Talks, you know it’s going to be videotaped and they’re for posterity. It adds a whole level of pressure and I hadn’t done much speaking at that point. I’m happy how it turned out. It’s my journey since I left my family business, trying to share the story and then I weave it through five points that I learned and utilized. The first one is to listen to your intuition, be open to whatever comes your way. Number two is to step out of your comfort zone. Three was to stay in life-balance. Four is to have fun and enjoy the ride and five is there are no rules, expect the unexpected.
That’s a big one, because everyone’s brought up with tons of rules as a kid and the concept of giving people the freedom to say, “This is your life,” just because you have a family business and it’s expected, the rule is, “You will do this.” You broke that rule and you continue to break other rules and more importantly, what I see you doing, Brian, whether it’s with your coaching, your speaking or your wonderful book Habits for Success, is you’re giving people permission to break rules that aren’t working for them anymore.
Thank you. I feel I was put in this to be a living example to help give permission to people to be themselves. I’ve had to work hard at it myself and I’ve done the work and I paid attention. It all falls into the point of learning how to love and accept yourself.
The book is called Habits for Success. Is there any last thought or quote you want to leave us with?
Be yourself to free yourself.
Thanks, Brian. To follow you on social media is, G. Brian Benson. People can find you that way. What you’re doing, the energy you put out, being in your presence when we had coffee was a calming experience and it lets other people calm down and possibly listen to their own intuition. Congratulations on this wonderful book.
Thank you, John. I appreciate you.
Important Links
- Habits for Success: Inspired Ideas to Help You Soar
- Brian’s List: 26 1/2 Easy to Use Ideas on How to Live a Fun, Balanced, Healthy Life!
- Be Yourself to Free Yourself (Finding Your Personal Freedom) – TEDx Talk
- G. Brian Benson – Facebook
- GBrianBenson.com
- Better Selling Through Storytelling Method Online Course
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How To Slingshot From Invisible To Irresistible With Gabor George Burt
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Customer satisfaction is, and always will be, the ultimate purpose of any business. Reimagining your service apart from your competitors creatively can be game-changing. Author of Slingshot, and expert at making yourself magnetic to your customers, Gabor George Burt, goes back to where it all began, the curiosity and creativity of a child. He explains how applying creativity systematically in setting your brand apart can give leaps and bounds of success. Gabor relates this to keeping your customers infatuated with your product/service and how you can make this happen for your company.
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How To Slingshot From Invisible To Irresistible With Gabor George Burt
Our guest on The Successful Pitch is Gabor George Burt, who is the author of Slingshot. He has been instrumental in blue ocean strategies and is an expert at innovation and reimagining how to make yourself magnetic to your customers. He talks about the importance of keeping the infatuation that customers have when they start working with you or trying your product. He said, “Standing still is not an option. Creativity is the most important leadership skill but people have trouble figuring out how to identify it and use it.” He’s going to show us how in this episode.
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I have a special guest. His name is Gabor George Burt. Gabor has a fascinating background and has been seen by many people in the world as an innovation expert. We have the pleasure of having a friendship and met through our mutual friend, Sameer Somal. I always like to give a shout-out to people who introduced me to great people. One of the things that Gabor is known for is his expertise as a global authority on reimagining boundaries. He’s the author of the book, Slingshot. He has the ability to speak around the world on innovation, creativity, and strategy, where he helps both individuals and organizations overstep these perceived limitations and carve out some successful growth strategies.
He is a leading expert on Blue Ocean Strategy and has contributed a case study material to that book. His new book, Slingshot takes off where that one’s ends. In other words, people have an understanding that there’s a need for a different way of thinking, but Gabor helps people figure out ways to start implementing that. He’s listed on that top list of Top Visionaries on numerous prominent appearances. He gave the opening presentation at the World Marketing Forum and was the architect and host of the Forum for Partnership in America. Gabor, welcome to the show.
Thank you, John. It’s so good to be with you.
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I’m always interested to hear people’s stories of origin. We see you being a global citizen and in cutting edge of innovation. I can only imagine what your childhood was like. Were you the kind of child that took apart the vacuum cleaner and try to figure out how it worked? You can take us back as far as you want when you decided you wanted to study one thing versus another in school. Wherever you want to start.
Thank you for asking. One of the things that I say when I’m asked about my background is to mention an intriguing fact. For a brief moment in time, I was once the youngest person on earth. If you think about it, that’s also true for you and for anyone. It’s an interesting insight because one of the core principles at the heart of my whole platform is this notion that all of us have this inner child that’s full of curiosity, adventure and wanting to do new things. We get disconnected as we grow older and that’s a real shame. One of the things I then ask is, “What evidence do you have that you were once a child and the youngest person on earth?” I’m thinking in the right direction.
I was born in Budapest, Hungary, hence my name. I was born during a period of communism, although as a child that was not as apparent in terms of what that meant. I was uprooted at age twelve and brought to America because my stepfather is American. As you can imagine, that’s a huge shift in everything in terms of the environment and culture. I didn’t speak a word of English. I’m Hungarian. I was studying Russian and French. That had a huge impact on my worldview and life philosophy. It’s always asking questions and looking at things almost from an external perspective and saying, “What if?” “Why does this have to work this way?” That’s the trajectory that I’ve been on.
Besides business, I studied psychology because I’ve always been interested in what motivates people. After having spent some time on Wall Street, I went back to business school after college. When I finished, coincidentally was when the Iron Curtain was coming down in Eastern Central Europe. I was invited to go back with Citibank and be part of the first Western-type banking in that whole region. I lived through that whole decade of the ‘90s, which to me is one of the most fascinating times in human history when a whole region transformed culturally, socially, economically and politically, in a mostly peaceful way.
Customer Service Satisfaction: Blue ocean is all about reimagining what you do and finding new market spaces of irresistible customer value.
I left the bank, after a short while and started my own business. I launched and ran a financial software company all the way until my favorite professor from business school, called me one day and said he finished the research to this new management and leadership concept. He thinks it will have a big appeal and invited me to be one of the first people to join him. That became the Blue Ocean Strategy, which of course went on to become the most influential leadership management concept of the new millennium.
It immediately appealed to me because Blue Ocean is all about reimagining what you do and finding new market spaces of irresistible customer value. I transitioned myself out of the business that I founded. For over ten years, I was one of the top blue oceanographers around the world. Based on my work with that, I was fascinated by the idea that everybody loves the notion of a blue ocean and wants to create one for their own business. In practice, few companies were ever able to do that and I wanted to find out why.
I arrived at the fact that everybody saw Blue Ocean as disruptive meaning leaving behind what you already know and are comfortable doing. Secondly, that no one was good at engaging their natural creativity, which is the fuel that you need in order to reimagine what you’re doing and find Blue Ocean. That was the impetus for me to set out and create my own framework, the Slingshot Framework, which is the practical application of Blue Ocean Strategy. That’s my journey.
That’s quite a journey. I love the what-if in your mindset and getting to do that what if implementation in Budapest and imagining what life would be like to introduce all that software and banking into the world. You mentioned that you’ve contributed some case study materials to Blue Ocean? Can you tell us about one of those?
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There was one particular one. If you have read or will read the Blue Ocean Strategy book, it’s full of some great examples, but all of them are about either big companies or companies in well-developed markets like the US market or Europe. I thought that in order to make it universally appealing, it should also have a story about a startup from a developing up and upcoming part of the world. Naturally, I went back to Eastern Europe and found the story of a startup, a bus company called NABI, North American Bus Industries, which, in a short time, broke into the US municipal bus market. It was an already saturated and competitive industry and the way they approached it was absolutely a Blue Ocean. That was my contribution, the case study, which you can read about in the book.
What do you typically get hired to do with companies that want to have you come in and be a keynote speaker? What is a typical topic and your ideal audience?
It’s undeniable that there is an absolute transformation going on in business now. People talk about the VUCA world, which is an acronym for Volatility, Uncertainty, Complexity and Adversity. It’s this perfect cocktail and storm of difficult conditions. What that means is that for any organization, standing still is not an option. You’re either moving forward, one of the future shapers and actively configuring the direction of your market space or you get left behind. You’re the ones that become a casualty and at best you’re trying to react to all the change around you.
What I get asked to do in my talks, engagements and work with companies and organizations around the world is to help them be one of the former groups. It’s to be one of the future shapers. I do that by going in and challenging their thinking with the assumption that every single leadership team and company no matter how successful still operates within what I call self-imposed mental boundaries. I expose those boundaries and I take them beyond. The best way I can summarize that is there’s a wonderful old Southern expression that says, “You can’t see the label if you’re inside the jar.” That’s what I do. Every company is somehow confined within a jar because they accept certain assumptions, traditions, limitations that are artificial. What I do is that I come in and I expose those boundaries. I show them the label and help them get outside the jar.
Customer Service Satisfaction: When you’re talking to a prospective client or customer on a high note, get their attention, and their emotional connectivity.
What I’d like to do now is have you walk us through how we can start reimagining the boundaries that we’ve either put on ourselves self-imposed or that we come across in situations. There’s a five-step process. The first one is the one that intrigues me, which is this concept of the infatuation interval. You have a wonderful story that you wrote about your son and his trains. Would you share that story as the introduction to an infatuation interval?
There are two major components of what I do. First is this notion of exposing everyone to this incredible resource which is our creativity organization-wide or individually. Survey after survey shows that in fact, creativity is the most important leadership skill now. That’s the one that CEOs put on the top of their list yet, they also then go on to say that they fell ill-equipped in terms of understanding its power and harnessing and nurturing creativity in their organization. One of the first things I do is to bring them to understand that creativity is something that’s dormant and we can reconnect and systematically apply.
For example, I tell the story of three tourists walking in Africa on a Safari in the Serengeti. All of a sudden, an angry and ferocious lion jumps out in front of them. It’s baring its teeth and groundling. Its intentions are clear. It’s hungry and the three tourists act differently. The first one is absolutely terrified, frozen in fear and is unable to move at all. The second one immediately starts to take off any extra garment and equipment, the vest, water bottle and the backpack. The third one is calmly assessing the situation with his hands in his pocket. After a while, the first tourist turned to the second one and says, “What are you doing?” The second one says, “I want to run as fast as I can.” The first one says, “You’re crazy. You’re never going to outrun the lion.” The second one says, “It’s not the lion that I have to outrun.” The third tourist after a few more seconds takes out a lighter from his pocket, lights it and scares away the lion.
This is representative of the difference in mentality that companies have now. The first one is absolutely unaware of all the changes, all the VUCA world dynamics and is oblivious and will not be able to react. That has happened to famous companies like Kodak, Research in Motion or most to Thomas Cook, the travel company. The second one is a little bit better. His view is only about survival, “As long as I can outrun one of the others, I am still alive and that’s okay.” It’s the third one that engages his creative abilities, looks at the situation, doesn’t accept it’s supposed to be the outcome or its finality and does something unexpected and puts himself in control. That’s the first thing.
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The second is once the creativity of a leadership team is re-engaged or it was reawaken, it’s how to channel that and to apply it systematically. There is a definite process that I use and the heart of that is this notion that what every single company needs to focus on is the customer experience. What do you deliver? That goes across from the sales process, marketing, all the way to delivery and the maintenance of that relationship. That’s why that whole spectrum is critical. How do you achieve optimal customer experience across all those different phases? This is where the concept of customer infatuation comes in.
My premise is that any received service or product creates a flood of emotional response on the part of the target audience but that response by nature is fleeting. It only lasts for a certain interval of time, a temporary period because, after a while, the customers will take whatever you gave them that they were excited about as the new normal as the status quo and they will no longer be excited by it. What perfectly captures this cyclicality is the idea of infatuation. What I talked about is you can see this cycle in fast motion with children because children always get fascinated about the next toy.
In my case, my son Max was obsessed with Thomas the Tank Engine and all the different trains in the collection. Fascinatingly, as soon as he got the next train that he had to have, which could have been Percy or some of the other Thomas friends. Within minutes, he would go back to the catalog and now select the next one that he had to have and couldn’t live without. It’s that cyclicality that you can capture and understanding that is the absolutes engine for any company to keep their customers emotionally close to them throughout that whole relationship from sales and marketing all the way to ongoing maintenance of a relationship.
It sounds like it’s crucial for everyone whether you’re a one-person operation or big company, let’s say like Starbucks to keep coming up with something new to get your customer infatuated with the new version of whatever it is like Starbucks, for example. At certain times of the year, it has a special limited edition pumpkin spice for Halloween or what have you. That’s their way of doing that. Is that what you’re talking about?
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Yes and some companies get this naturally and some stumble on it and do it from time to time. My whole point is this should be and can be done systematically. In fact, what I even talked about is that the initial period of elation when you get something that you’re excited about. It could be your new iPhone or a new flavor at Starbucks. That is when you enter what I call the infatuation interval. When you’re charged up, you’re emotionally connected and you’re almost blind to any of the shortcomings of the new offering.
As you gradually start to get used to that innovation, your emotional state starts to decline and you start to gradually notice things that you want to have even better, faster, more customized and fun. At one point, you transition into what I call the entitlement period, where you are no longer emotionally charged up and demand new features and new things that you can get excited about. What companies need to understand is, if they allow their customers to transfer from the infatuation interval to the entitlement period, that’s where they enter the danger zone of losing those customers who may migrate to other suppliers. The exciting part of this is that you can measure the infatuation interval of your customers and what I call the infatuation interval index.
There is now this capability using social media and big data in knowing exactly what emotional connectivity your customers are feeling to you. That’s measurable for any phase of your relationship. It could be for your sales process or marketing efforts. That’s the exciting part of the new frontier that if companies understand that they could be one of the future shapers and optimize the ongoing customer experience, there are no limits to how relevant and how magnetic they can become to their customers.
I see your Slingshot being able to solve two big problems in the world that I see happening. For people who are in sales, let’s face it, we’re all in sales. We’re selling ourselves to get hired, promoted, get our idea of committed or to sell a product or service. You’re in this process and clients are infatuated with, “This sounds great. We can’t wait to share this with my boss. Send us a proposal.” You’re like, “This is going to happen.” You’re all excited and all of a sudden, the infatuation wears off or they’re not returning phone calls.
Customer Service Satisfaction: If you get people’s affection, you have their attention. If you have their attention, that means you matter to them. If you matter to them, then you can stay relevant.
You can relate it to almost dating sometimes, “What happened here?” Somebody gets a new customer and they go, “This is great. Look at all these new customers.” You start looking under the hood and you say, “We’re only retaining 30% of the people who come here to have a meal. Nobody’s coming back.” They were so infatuated. Do they settle on us or were they infatuated with our donut or whatever it was and now they don’t like it? How did we lose that magnetism?
This concept of reimagining how to be magnetic to a customer using your infatuation index is solving so many problems of somebody who went away and their interest when it faded. We didn’t know it was starting to fade and we certainly don’t know how to get it back. You’re solving the awareness problem and we know that’s half of any problem is being aware of what it is. The solution part of it is I’m guessing you have a whole strategy on how to win people back if you have in fact lost the initial infatuation.
Those are great observations and summaries of this entire space that I am promoting. John, you and I both give talks and you talk about the power of storytelling. You talked about getting salespeople from invisible to irresistible. That to me is an excellent complement to both of those topics to what I am talking about. I started our conversation by saying something that probably caught your attention or would catch anyone’s attention which is, “Here’s a fun fact. I was the youngest person on earth.” “That’s interesting that now you have my attention.” As a speaker, what do you do? With that attention span and positive charge, you’ve got to start any relationship but be it on stage or you’re talking to a prospective client or customer on a high note to get their attention. Also, to get their emotional connectivity. How long will that give you?
If I then go into my speech on stage and the next few minutes is boring, I’m not infatuating you. At what point will I lose your attention? That’s the same process in sales, marketing and providing a product throughout that whole process. It’s a real concept and it’s in relationships as well. As long as we are emotionally connecting with our target audience, we have their attention and we have a good chance in the business of winning their business. As soon as that fades, we are letting them go. Our golden opportunity is to keep them re-infatuated and understanding that there’s no such thing as a perfectly or continuously satisfied customer. That doesn’t exist, but we can invent a new way to keep them charged up and do that over and over again. That’s a wonderful platform for innovation and always reimagining boundaries.
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We have decided to team up on this because I believe that infatuation is a kissing cousin of irresistible and creating a master class for companies who want to reimagine how to become magnetic to their ideal customers. One of the things we’re going to be talking about in the master class is how to turn customer pain points into points of infatuation. Do you have a story or an example that you want to tantalize someone with and want them to learn more about how that would work?
One quick and easy example is from the airline industry. We can all agree that airline travel is full of pain points where we feel frustrated, discomfort and disconnect from the airline and in our experience. We can also agree that the middle seat is the worst seat on an airplane. If you ever get the middle seat, you feel that that you are the sucker and you’re not going to a good flight. That’s a classic pain point. Spirit Airlines announced they were going to reconfigure their seating. What they’re going to do is make the middle seat the widest. Imagine that transformation from a point of pain to a point of infatuation and smartly and psychologically, they only increased the size of the middle seat by a single inch. That’s enough to make it so that in the traveler’s mind, they need to desire the middle seat because it’s the widest.
You’re taking what was before a pain point, you’re only not removing it or saying, “From now on, we’re no longer offering a middle seat because everybody hates it.” That’s impossible but you’re forming it into a point of infatuation where it now becomes the most desired seat on a plane. The other example, which is a fun one, I like to tell is, if you remember Nintendo’s Wii and it’s profound in the gaming industry. Basically, before Nintendo’s Wii that came out in 2006, the gaming industry was limited to 5% of the population, which was antisocial teenage boys. Everything in that space tries to compete with one another. Along comes Nintendo using Blue Ocean Strategy and says, “We’re going to let you fight over that 5% of the market. We’re going after the 95% who never had an interest in video games.”
Why? What was the key pain point? The answer was simple. People didn’t want to spend hours in front of a screen passively sitting. What did Nintendo do? They introduced the motion sensor and combined what everybody before thought was two separate things active playing with passive playing. By doing this, they transform the biggest pain point of non-customers into the biggest attraction and infatuation. All of a sudden, I can play golf, do skiing, and play tennis in my TV room. It was this innovation that transformed the entire gaming industry.
Slingshot: Re-Imagine Your Business, Re-Imagine Your Life
The story I tell is that a year into this to show the power of this infatuation, there was a story out of Florida where undercover police agents raided the house of someone suspected to be a drug dealer. The surveillance videos in the house, unbeknownst to the policeman who entered, captured what they were doing. It shows the raiding team members coming into the living room and seeing a Nintendo Wii bowling on the screen that was left on. They were so infatuated by this game that they couldn’t resist. They started playing. They started bowling and getting excited by their results, forgetting all about this important clandestine mission that they were on. My point is that you can’t blame the officers. They were irresistibly still caught in the infatuation interval of the Wii that was created. That’s a great way of visually illustrating that magnetic power that you can create for your own products and services.
I love that analogy of Nintendo and Wii because when I was working with the Cosmopolitan Hotel in Vegas a few years ago when they were launching and coming up with their marketing and advertising, I said to them, “Who’s your competitor? Is it Bellagio?” They go, “No. We’re going after people who hate to come to Vegas.” I went, “Now that is a clever way to target people and a whole different way. It’s about art. It’s about this and that.” It’s not staying in that same competitive set. Now, there’s something called Vegas fatigue, where people aren’t going as much as they want. What Vegas decided that they need to do is create something completely new that’s only found in Vegas. That’s a new tagline.
They partnered with Madison Square Garden to create a sphere. It will be completely immersive that’ll be unlike anything else you’ve ever experienced in concerts and lots of product shows. When companies need our experience and exposure to other brands that are using this innovation, irresistibility and how to create customer magnetism, where’s the best way for people to find you? I know you have your own website as well as a site for the Slingshot. If you don’t mind sharing that.
I am much looking forward to you and I collaborating and launching this masterclass, which will be not just combining our expertise but you and I being on stage together, ad-libbing and injecting stories. We’re delivering not just content but an experience and immersing our audience in these stories as well. That’s a great combination and it’s so important because both you and I understand that it’s all about getting people’s affection. If you get people’s affection, you have their attention. If you have their attention, that means you matter to them and if you matter to them, then you can stay relevant and that’s where the game is played.
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I sometimes ask my clients, “If you asked your customers, would they say that you’re one of their favorite brands within the space that you operate in?” They may say, “Yeah, I’m in the top five or maybe I’m in number one.” I say, “How about if you ask them are you their favorite brand across all possible company in this space?” If you’re not, then why not? That should be your mission and your goal. It’s the same way that you said about Vegas. That’s a great example. This is not about competing for other hotels on the strip. This is about making Vegas relevant and matter and putting you as the curator and purveyor of that. I love that. In terms of finding me, if people google me, I have a website and LinkedIn, I’m pretty active on them. Hopefully when you and I start doing our thing together and we’ll have our own website or ways of finding that as well.
That’s GaborGeorgeBurt.com. The book again is called Slingshot: Re-imagine Your Business, Re-Imagine Your Life. Thank you so much for sharing your creativity. Everyone I know is already infatuated with you learning what you’ve already shared.
Thank you, John. You’re a pleasure to talk with and I look forward to us doing things together.
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The Blueprint – Lift Your Leadership To New Heights With Doug Conant
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Being an effective leader isn’t always about being a tough leader—there’s a distinction. What distinguishes an effective leader from a tough leader is knowing when to be tough, and when to be a kind ear, a sensitive ear, for the people who work with you. Doug Conant has been a high-ranking executive at multiple world-class global companies, and is the founder of Conant Leadership. Doug sits down with John Livesay to discuss what makes an effective leader, and how to bring out those qualities in every leader. Feel like you’ve hit a wall in terms of the way you’re leading people? Let Doug help you navigate through the process the best way you can.
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The Blueprint – Lift Your Leadership To New Heights With Doug Conant
Our guest is Doug Conant. He’s an internationally renowned business leader, the New York Times best-selling author, a keynote speaker, and a social media influencer with over 40 years of leadership experience at world-class global companies. For many years of his leadership journey, he’s honed his leadership craft at the most senior levels. First as President of Nabisco Food Company, then as CEO of Campbell Soup Company, and finally, as Chairman of Avon Products. In 2011, he founded ConantLeadership, a mission-driven community of leaders and learners who are championing leadership that works in the 21st century. Doug, welcome to the show.
It’s great to be here.
The Blueprint: 6 Practical Steps to Lift Your Leadership to New Heights
We have a lot of friends in common and share a publicist. You have this new wonderful book that I’m excited to have an early galley of called The Blueprint: 6 Practical Steps to Lift Your Leadership to New Heights. We’re going to do a deep dive, I’m sure people are going to want to get a copy of that. Before that, I would love to take us back to your own story of origin. Did you always know as a young person that you wanted to become a big leader in all these companies? You can go back as far as you want, childhood, high school or college, whatever you think that sparked the fire that became Doug Conant.
I grew up in a small town outside of Chicago, in the distant suburbs of Chicago. No, I did not have any grand plan. It turned out, I was an introverted kid. Surprisingly, I’m still a bit introverted. I took to the game of playing tennis where I could hit the ball against the wall by myself and not talk to anyone. I loved doing that for hours and hours. Ultimately, I became a good tennis player. I attended Northwestern University on a tennis scholarship that paid for my education. I stayed on to help coach at Northwestern and went straight through to graduate school. I got my MBA at Kellogg in 1975. I then went into the world of business.
A story about that, my advisor at the Kellogg’s school was the father of the marketing book of the twentieth century, Philip Kotler. He wrote Introduction to Marketing and he talked about the five Ps. He was the marketing godfather of a whole generation of leaders. I don’t know if you remember the scene from The Graduate with Dustin Hoffman, where he’s at a pool. He’s just graduated college and these older men are putting their arms around him and asking him what he’s going to do. This one fellow comes up, puts his arm around him and says, “I’ve got one word for you, plastics.” Dustin Hoffman looked at him rather quizzically and never went into the world of plastics. That scene always stuck with me.
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Not knowing which way was up in my life at the time, I’m with professor Kotler. He metaphorically puts his arm around me and says, “Doug, I have two words for you, brand management.” That was the hot button in the last quarter of the last century. I followed his advice and I went into brand management. I was recruited up to General Mills, which was one of the three companies that were leading the way in terms of the practice of brand management. It’s a marketing discipline. It’s a way of marketing your brand to consumers through the consumer’s eyes, not through the manufacturer’s eyes. I went and did that.
I had my first performance review there, five months into my job. My boss wrote up my evaluation and his boss had to write one line that said I read the report and signed it. My boss’s boss one line was, “You should be looking for another job,” and then he signed his name. Meanwhile, I had moved up to Minneapolis, Minnesota, where I did not know a soul, from Chicago. I’m thinking, “My life is exploding and I haven’t even started it yet.” I persevered through that and that was healthy for me because I had a challenge and I rose through the challenge.
I went through there and ultimately transferred out to Boston, which was another risky move. They were the world’s largest toy manufacturer at the time, General Mills, and they owned Parker Brothers. I went out to work for Parker Brothers Choice and Games. I had a great run for three years. They spun the company off, one day, I went into work, the receptionist said, “Doug, the senior vice president would like to see you.” I went up to his office and he said, “Doug, your position has been eliminated. You need to be out of here by noon today.” Nine years of my career with General Mills was over in a snap. I went home to my wife, my two small children, and my one large mortgage, feeling every bit of the victim. That was the illustrious start to my career. I’ve been told that I should look for another job, and ultimately I was being fired.
Being An Effective Leader: Getting in touch with yourself is absolutely essential to every leader.
That alone, there’s so much to unpack and then we want to continue this story. I also grew up in the suburbs of Chicago. I grew up in Elk Grove Village outside of O’Hare Airport and we used to wave at the planes. I used to swim competitively and that is also an individual sport for the most part. You’re in the water by yourself, you might be part of the team but were doing your thing. Do you think you learned any leadership lessons subconsciously hitting that tennis ball over and over against the wall? Whether it be discipline or focus, any takeaways from that, now looking back?
I wrote a blog on life lessons learned from the game of tennis. I had a baker’s dozen life lessons and absolutely, I did learn a lot. First of all, I got more in touch with myself, which is essential for every leader. I learned how to compete, how to perform under pressure. Also, through tennis and in teaching tennis, I learned how to engage with people who were hungry to get some help. Tennis was foundational to the start of my life in business. Competitive sports help that, you have to move beyond it. It proved to be a great foundation. When I was working, I would see people, when we were starting our careers, wilting under the pressure because they were so anxious. I was more comfortable. I was still an introvert, not quite comfortable, but I was good enough to be able to hold my own under pressure. In the fullness of time, I became comfortable.
I talk about that all the time, people get butterflies in their stomach especially when they have to present in front of their peers. I tell people that the goal is not to get rid of the butterflies but to get them to fly in formation. You talked about the five Ps, one of them is not plastic, just for the readers. It’s price, packaging, promotion, and all that good stuff. You said something about your lessons learned at General Mills, which is important no matter what the industry is. That is, “Market through the consumer’s eyes and not the manufacturer’s eyes.” That I saw happening in the computer industry, in the dot-com boom. They would make some hardware then assume that somebody was going to figure out how to use it. If you start from the consumer’s perspective, that’s valuable. What was happening that made that boss write, “You should look for another job?” Was that a shock or did you anticipate that?
I came off the tennis tour. I had taken three months off. My first day of work at General Mills, I had a khaki suit, a yellow shirt, a big wide tie. I had something that most of your followers wouldn’t know, brown Earth shoes on. I had an afro, a full man shoe, and a tan line from where my headband had been. I went to work at a place where everybody was wearing white shirts and blue pinstripe suits. It was a rude awakening and I had never worked in an office before. I had a slow start and I worked hard. I was bright enough to do it, but I had to get acculturated. The first three months were tough, the next few months, I started to hit stride. My boss saw that, but his boss didn’t see beyond first impressions. His boss was not particularly sensitive to my situation. He didn’t care. He got my attention.
The other thing you and I share is I had a career at Condé Nast and got laid off after years back in 2008. You were at GM. I actually did a whole TEDx Talk on being a lifeguard of your own life. This concept of resilience, how do we bounce back when we get our identity so tied up with our career? I’m fascinated to let you continue the story of you coming home, you have this big mortgage and children to support. You’ve got to lick your wounds and not stay a victim.
What we covered triggers one more thought around looking at the world through the eyes of the consumer. That’s also how I believe you have to lead. Looking through the eyes of the people you’re leading. You have a clear sense of direction, and you have a sense of purpose. You have a philosophy about leadership, but you do have to look through the eyes of the people you’re leading because leaders need followers. You need to be viewing the world through the eyes of your followers so that you can adjust your leadership accordingly. The consumer marketing perspective has helped me with a leadership perspective. In terms of when I lost my job, the best thing that happened to me is that they sent me to an outplacement counselor that afternoon.
I called him and he answered the phone. “My name is Neil McKenna. How can I help?” Neil McKenna became a mentor in my life. That one day had the lowest moment in my career when I was fired, and one of the highlights of my career was meeting Neil McKenna on the same day. I’m old, this is before caller ID or cellphone. When I called Neil, every time he answered the phone, he would say, “Hello, this is Neil McKenna. How can I help?” You could have been the plumber and he would be saying that. What he did by just saying that is, it welcomed you in. He created a platform for conversation where he was listening to where you were coming from. I went over there and he guided me through an outplacement process which was difficult for an introvert.
He led me through a process that strongly influences the thinking in our book The Blueprint. He helped me get in touch with the real me. I was struggling just like most of us, there was the work me and me beyond work. They were two different people. I posted a small little piece from Warren Buffett on LinkedIn and Twitter. Basically, I said, “Get rid of the mask.” You need to be one with who you are personally and professionally. It needs to be one. I believe that and Neil helped me get to a place where I could show up authentically and also continue to grow and contribute in an increasing way, because authenticity alone, I find is not enough.
You need to know what you’re doing too. You need to keep growing into your leadership. You’re getting a little better tomorrow than you are today. With Neil’s help, I found that when you marry this notion of authenticity with the concept of growth, you can lift your leadership to new heights in a very practical way. That strongly influenced the book. The only other thing I’m just touching on Neil McKenna. Since I worked with Neil, I have brought a how I can help mentality to every day I go to work. Every time I’m at home, I’m at church it’s, how can I help? That’s the lens that I choose to look through life at, and it’s been life-changing for me.
In the introduction to The Blueprint book, you talk about the raw materials of change that are already within you. You quote Arthur Ashe, of course, the famous American tennis player, “Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can.” The irony for me reading that, Doug, was that I quote, Arthur Ashe in my keynotes about confidence. He is also known to say, “The key to success is confidence, and the key to confidence is preparation.” We both admire him and use his philosophy in different ways. Yours is about leadership. Mine is about selling. When I opened your book, and I saw that quote, I thought, “I am so excited to read this and so excited to interview you.” When you click with certain people, you don’t always know why. When you have all these signals, and that was one question I wanted to ask you. Did you notice similarities between Nabisco, Campbell Soup and Avon, that those skillsets that you could apply across all those different companies of what it takes in addition to this authenticity, and the power of can I help mindset?
First of all, Arthur Ashe, I was on his foundation, and I worked with his wife. He’s a member of what I call my entourage, people I carry with me, who even though they may not be with us, they are with me in spirit. Arthur is one of those people because he achieved excellence in my sport, but he also transcended that sport with his civility and his desire to be a social change agent. He showed that all things are possible. I strongly believe that as well. You can’t go wrong if you walk in Arthur Ashe’s shoes if only for a moment in time. The key I found, in terms of across all of my work experiences and we talked about three companies, but every day is a new adventure. With a new meeting, a new group, a new stakeholder, and different boards I was on. I found that the key to having an impact was being tuned in to the here and now with a clear sense of where we were trying to go long-term.
I’ve written about this need to be a leadership time traveler. We actually have to perform. To be effective leaders, we’ve got to be brilliant in three time zones at the same time. We have to remember and honor the past. We have to perform in the present in such a way that we don’t compromise the future. Every effective leader has got to be thinking three time zones, across everything they do. I thought Arthur did that, he was effective in the present, but he saw a need to do things better in the future. He championed that while saying, “The present isn’t good enough, but it’s where we are, and we can make it better tomorrow.” He kept putting one foot in front of the other in an inspiring way. That was true at Nabisco, at Campbell Soup Company, and at Avon.
The other thing I would say, which will connect to the book, you’ve got to be incredibly connected to who you are. Stuff is coming at you seventeen ways from Sunday. We all feel as if we’re trying to get a sip of water from the fire hydrant of life every day. Think of a fire hydrant cap coming off, and this water is just washing over you. That’s life in nowadays world. You don’t have time to think about, “How am I supposed to respond to this with my professional self?” You don’t have time to play the game. In my opinion, you have to be incredibly in tune with who you are. You have to be able to respond to these challenges authentically. Most people, I have found, are not in touch with who they are. They’re not in touch with their many gifts, they haven’t done the self-exploration required to be able to show up on demand in a way that’s highly authentic.
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What I have found is one of the first steps to becoming a better leader is to envision where you want to go but then to reflect deeply on your life experiences and harvest those to show, “How do I want to walk in the world? What cues from my past have influenced me in my life?” I’ve talked about two of them. I’ve talked about Neil McKenna, and how can I help. We just talked about Arthur Ashe and do what you can with where you are. I carry those lessons with me personally. They resonate with me being who I am. It makes it much easier to show up with people because I know where I’m coming from. I’ve spent the time reflecting and getting in touch with the leader I want to be as opposed to trying to be the leader I think I’m supposed to be every minute of the day.
Being An Effective Leader: If the present isn’t good enough, you have to realize that that’s where you are, and you have to make it better tomorrow.
You have a boot camp every quarter on leadership where you talk about being authentic, which we’ve covered, as well as this integrated approach that lets you lead. You have something called the ConantLeadership Flywheel. Can you touch on that? Give us a little sample of what people would get if they took the boot camp and this Flywheel?
What’s cool about boot camp and the flywheel is tangential to that conversation, but I’ll connect it. With the boot camp, it takes about nine hours of pre-work to do this, you’ve got to invest time because I’m only with them for two days. We have a lot to cover. They do nine hours of pre-work reflecting on their past and drawing out highlights, trying to get in touch with their life story. They come and work with me. We try and pick that life story apart to a point where they can draw conclusions about, “Here’s the leader I would like to be based on all the positive life experiences I’ve had.” The grandfather listened to me when nobody else would. The outplacement counselor who said, “How can I help?” The good boss who said, “I’ve got your back.”
We harvest those lessons and we help them create their own leadership model. I believe in this concept of authenticity so powerfully that each one of us has our leadership philosophy, our own leadership model. In two days, we help them harvest all these learning, do a little studying and create their own leadership model. The one on the ConantLeadership Flywheel happens to be my model. It doesn’t work for a lot of people, but it works for me and that’s all that matters. I can go into any situation, looking at the world through that lens, which is my lens, diagnose any situation and come up with, “Here’s how I want to approach it.” In my case, I have eight components, three are at the heart of my model and that’ll be captured in The Blueprint. It’s not up on the website yet.
I have three core components. The first one is, honor people. The second ring is, inspire trust. The third ring is, clarify a higher purpose. Every time I go into an engagement anywhere, I’m focused on honoring people, building trust, and being clear about why I’m there. I then have five pieces that operate around those three rings. One starts by creating direction, getting organizational alignment, building vitality, executing with excellence, and producing extraordinary results. I can go into any leadership challenge, diagnose a situation, figure out where it fits on my model, and come up with a way to approach the challenge.
It gives people a roadmap, especially if they recently got promoted or they’re leading a different group of people than they’ve ever led before. Having this flywheel allows them to say, “What do I need to dial in here to respond to this new challenge?”
Yeah, but they don’t design their flywheel. I have a flywheel. I had a fellow who worked with me, who had a son who could do a Rubik’s Cube in under two minutes. He decided that his model was going to be a Rubik’s Cube, he was trying to solve a puzzle with every challenge. That cube has six sides and those six sides were the six things that he thought about when he was trying to lead. That’s how he managed it in a way that spoke to him in a special way. All my students have to send me a video of them presenting their model. They have to be able to present their model in two minutes so they can demonstrate that they’re fluent with it and get to the high points of it.
He sent me his video and in the lower part of the screen, he had his son doing the Rubik’s Cube. It was a bit distracting but it communicated clearly. Everybody has their own way of looking at this. I’ve had people who are gardeners. I’ve had some women who are gifted. Gifted gardeners who think about preparing the earth, trying to take care of the garden, pruning it back, making sure all the elements are coming in so the plants can flourish, taking care of the roots before they can get the fruits. Those models speak to them in a deep and personal way. The way we construct their models, they leverage all their life learnings so that those learnings support the language they’re using to talk about. All of a sudden, they have a story, and they have a metaphor for leadership that’s uniquely theirs.
One of my former boss, Nina Lawrence, she was a publisher at Condé Nast. She’s an avid gardener and is constantly posting pictures of getting the last fresh flowers of the season. She lives up in Connecticut. All of that, I had never thought of before, in terms of tending the team she managed and getting the most out of all of us like she got the most out of her garden. It’s fascinating to hear you mention that analogy.
It’s incredibly powerful in a busy world where you’re always on and you have to be able to respond in a way you can feel good about on-demand. The other piece of this is, it’s great that I have my leadership model, but that’s not good enough. The people I work with need to know where I’m coming from. They’re not mind readers. The reason I have these people do these two-minute videos is, we encourage them to find a way to share their philosophy with the people with whom they live and work. Everybody who works with me knows that I’m all about honoring people and inspiring trust because I’ve told them. You cannot assume they’re going to know. Most of us, as leaders, are assumptive.
We forget that these people have busier lives than we do. They’re not sitting waiting on the edge of their seat to read our minds, to know where we’re coming from as leaders. It’s our obligation to create clarity in the relationship and to tell them. I also have our folks invite the people they work with to tell them how they think. It’s not a one-way street. It’s a two-way street. All of a sudden, we have this higher understanding of where we’re each coming from, with more clarity around our leadership, we become more effective, more efficient. We’re able to act with integrity with everything we do because we’re doing what we said we’d do.
You talked about bringing courage down to earth in The Blueprint book. Using courage that we have to lead with integrity, authenticity, and a tough mind on standards, and yet with a tender heart towards people. My question is, how does someone toggle between the tough mind on standards and still being tender-hearted towards people?
I grew up a big Chicago Bears fan. I grew up in Glencoe. When I was growing up, George Halas was the coach of the Chicago Bears and Vince Lombardi was the coach of the Green Bay Packers. The predominant mindset was you’ve got to be tough. It wasn’t okay to be tender at all, I was never comfortable with that. I found I always connected better with people and was more effective when I was sensitive to where they were coming from. It just didn’t make any sense to be tough and intimidating all the time, especially knowing that I’d be polluting that relationship when I wasn’t in the room. I started this language about being tough-minded on standards and tender-hearted with people years ago. I found that the key to this whole thing is having what Stephen Covey, one of my mentors would say is an abundance mentality.
To be a leader, you do have to be tough-minded on standards and you need to be tender-hearted with people so they’ll engage in the journey with you. It’s not either/or, it’s both. Jim Collins, another friend used to say, “Doug, you’ve got to embrace the genius of the end, and you’ve got to reject the tyranny of the or.” I’m listening to this and it makes so much sense to me. As a leader, you don’t have a choice, you have to maintain high standards. I would also assert that if you want to be a leader that has an enduring impact with an organization, you don’t have a choice, you also have to be sensitive to the needs of people. I’ve spent a whole career doing both. It’s hard sometimes, but it’s what’s demanded.
You also talked about in the book, The Blueprint, the anatomy of leadership competence. There are three cues of competence. There’s intellectual, IQ, we all are familiar with that, and taking the test. Then there’s the big buzzword that’s been around for a while, emotional intelligence, which is all of this importance with your ability to show empathy and not just react. The one you talk about is FQ, which I’m less familiar with, which is functional intelligence. I would love you to describe it a little bit. If you wouldn’t mind, the second part of my question is, how did the IQ, EQ and FQ all work together?
First of all, if we go back to tough-minded on standards and tender-hearted with people, the IQ piece has to do with assessing a situation and looking at the cold, hard facts and processing information quickly and clearly, thinking through an issue. The emotional intelligence requires thoughtfulness but also feeling your way through the issue. That’s more of the tender-hearted with the people side of the equation. The third piece that we’re talking about, FQ, is something that I made up. I call it the functional quotient. You also have to know what you’re doing with your discipline.
If you wanted to be brilliant at a podcast, you have to have good IQ because you’ve got to process a lot of stuff quickly. You have to have good EQ because you have to connect with whoever you’re interviewing and your audience. You have to have good FQ, you have to know how to run a fine podcast. You need to know the discipline of a podcast. I was put in a sales role once, which was hilarious because I was an introvert and couldn’t play golf. I didn’t know the sales discipline well, but I had good IQ. I could think through things.
I had good EQ, I could feel my way through things. That’s enough initially, I have found to be able to go into any situation. Ultimately, if you’re in charge of discipline, whatever discipline it is, you have to be a student of that discipline in order to reach full proficiency. I found that FQ is essential if you want to start to contribute fully to whatever discipline you’re working in. It’s not good enough just to be a generalist, to be smart and to be feeling. You need to know what you’re talking about too, unlike our friends in Congress these days.
Being An Effective Leader: Every time you go into an engagement anywhere, you have to focus on honoring people, building trust, and being clear about why you’re there.
There are many ways people can interact with you. If you go to ConantLeadership.com, you can find the book, The Blueprint, so people can buy the book. They can also explore on the website whether the boot camp is something for their team. You’re a keynote speaker, you’re the only former Fortune 500 CEO who has a New York Times best-selling book, a Top 50 Leadership Innovator, and a Top 100 Leadership Speaker. As if that’s not enough, you’re also the Top 100 Most Influential Authors in the world. A lot of companies are bringing you in to talk to them on a variety of topics. The one that I resonate with is championing engagement to win in the workplace, that the soft stuff is the hard stuff. Doug, is there anything, one last thought you want to leave us with on any one or all three of those areas?
In nowadays world, I’ve been doing this a long time and it’s an old buzzword now, but the key to success is to create a high-engagement culture. I have found, if as a leader you get engaged in the lives of the people with whom you work, they will become engaged in the agenda of the enterprise. Quite frankly, it doesn’t work any other way. If you want them fully engaged, they’ve got to know you have their back and they’ve got to know you’re paying attention and that you care, but that you also have high standards. It’s not just, let’s hold hands and sing Kumbaya. They want to know they’re associated with an enterprise that has high standards, that performs but cares about its people, too. You can do that.
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The key to success is to become well-anchored as a leader in who you want to be and how you want to show up. Commit to bringing more authenticity to the workplace, and commit to growing in your ability to contribute, and then contributing in ways that help the enterprise move forward. That is a winning proposition. I would say, each one of us, as individuals, owes it to ourselves and the people with whom we work, to be the best version of ourselves we can be. These people are counting on us. I treat this whole leadership conversation and leadership in total as a craft. We are walking on sacred ground, we are affecting people’s lives every day. We owe it to them to be the best version of ourselves. Everything in The Blueprint is leading us to a place where we can become the best versions of ourselves.
I’ll close on one last thought related to it is, what’s different about The Blueprint and my philosophy is, it’s anchored in the real world. I’m not someone who talks about leadership but has never led anything. It’s written by someone who’s been there and done that for over 40 years. Started out at the lowest level you could at an organization and worked his way up through a variety of trying circumstances. What I brought to it is a degree of pragmatism that the change process we talked about is actually designed to fit in the middle of your cockamamie life without changing a thing.
If you think about all the people that go on diets after the holidays, “I’m going to get my diet under control, and I’m going to lose twenty pounds.” About one month into it, they say, “I can’t sustain this, it doesn’t fit into my life.” We’ve taken that into account. This is the first process I know that has taken into account the crazy life we lead and is designed to help you become a leader in a way that fits in the middle of your cockamamie life. That’s what I’m most proud of. It’s a practitioner’s eye towards the evolution of you as a leader.
If you want to get unstuck and get a blueprint book that’s going to show you how to be the best version of yourself, this is a book for you. Thanks again, Doug.
Good luck to you.
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