Is it public speaking? Is it failing in front of your friends? Is it calling or reaching out to someone you don’t know?
When we get rejected, we start to reject ourselves and what we are selling. What if we reframe that to “I never reject myself or doubt my abilities. no matter what the outcome.”
No matter what terrifies you, here are the three solutions to any fear:
1. You control your thoughts. You are the thinker thinking the thoughts. When you feel fear in your body, ask yourself, “What if I am just excited, versus scared?” They feel very similar; we can rename it.
2. Tell yourself you are enough and what you have to offer is valuable. Instead of being intimidated to reach out to someone new, tell yourself you are doing them a favor. This is their lucky day to be hearing from me.”
3. What other people think about you is none of your business! Let go of having to be a perfectionist at anything. Instead, think of yourself as a progressionist that celebrates your progress.
When your identity is so strong that results don’t make you go up and down the self-esteem roller coaster, you are free to overcome any fear that has been holding you back. The next time you feel any form of fear, just tell yourself “I’m safe and fearless.”