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The Blueprint – Lift Your Leadership To New Heights With Doug Conant

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04.03.20

TSP Doug Conant | Being An Effective Leader

 

Being an effective leader isn’t always about being a tough leader—there’s a distinction. What distinguishes an effective leader from a tough leader is knowing when to be tough, and when to be a kind ear, a sensitive ear, for the people who work with you. Doug Conant has been a high-ranking executive at multiple world-class global companies, and is the founder of Conant Leadership. Doug sits down with John Livesay to discuss what makes an effective leader, and how to bring out those qualities in every leader. Feel like you’ve hit a wall in terms of the way you’re leading people? Let Doug help you navigate through the process the best way you can.

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The Blueprint – Lift Your Leadership To New Heights With Doug Conant

Our guest is Doug Conant. He’s an internationally renowned business leader, the New York Times best-selling author, a keynote speaker, and a social media influencer with over 40 years of leadership experience at world-class global companies. For many years of his leadership journey, he’s honed his leadership craft at the most senior levels. First as President of Nabisco Food Company, then as CEO of Campbell Soup Company, and finally, as Chairman of Avon Products. In 2011, he founded ConantLeadership, a mission-driven community of leaders and learners who are championing leadership that works in the 21st century. Doug, welcome to the show.

It’s great to be here.

TSP Doug Conant | Being An Effective Leader

The Blueprint: 6 Practical Steps to Lift Your Leadership to New Heights

We have a lot of friends in common and share a publicist. You have this new wonderful book that I’m excited to have an early galley of called The Blueprint: 6 Practical Steps to Lift Your Leadership to New Heights. We’re going to do a deep dive, I’m sure people are going to want to get a copy of that. Before that, I would love to take us back to your own story of origin. Did you always know as a young person that you wanted to become a big leader in all these companies? You can go back as far as you want, childhood, high school or college, whatever you think that sparked the fire that became Doug Conant.

I grew up in a small town outside of Chicago, in the distant suburbs of Chicago. No, I did not have any grand plan. It turned out, I was an introverted kid. Surprisingly, I’m still a bit introverted. I took to the game of playing tennis where I could hit the ball against the wall by myself and not talk to anyone. I loved doing that for hours and hours. Ultimately, I became a good tennis player. I attended Northwestern University on a tennis scholarship that paid for my education. I stayed on to help coach at Northwestern and went straight through to graduate school. I got my MBA at Kellogg in 1975. I then went into the world of business.

A story about that, my advisor at the Kellogg’s school was the father of the marketing book of the twentieth century, Philip Kotler. He wrote Introduction to Marketing and he talked about the five Ps. He was the marketing godfather of a whole generation of leaders. I don’t know if you remember the scene from The Graduate with Dustin Hoffman, where he’s at a pool. He’s just graduated college and these older men are putting their arms around him and asking him what he’s going to do. This one fellow comes up, puts his arm around him and says, “I’ve got one word for you, plastics.” Dustin Hoffman looked at him rather quizzically and never went into the world of plastics. That scene always stuck with me.

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Not knowing which way was up in my life at the time, I’m with professor Kotler. He metaphorically puts his arm around me and says, “Doug, I have two words for you, brand management.” That was the hot button in the last quarter of the last century. I followed his advice and I went into brand management. I was recruited up to General Mills, which was one of the three companies that were leading the way in terms of the practice of brand management. It’s a marketing discipline. It’s a way of marketing your brand to consumers through the consumer’s eyes, not through the manufacturer’s eyes. I went and did that.

I had my first performance review there, five months into my job. My boss wrote up my evaluation and his boss had to write one line that said I read the report and signed it. My boss’s boss one line was, “You should be looking for another job,” and then he signed his name. Meanwhile, I had moved up to Minneapolis, Minnesota, where I did not know a soul, from Chicago. I’m thinking, “My life is exploding and I haven’t even started it yet.” I persevered through that and that was healthy for me because I had a challenge and I rose through the challenge.

I went through there and ultimately transferred out to Boston, which was another risky move. They were the world’s largest toy manufacturer at the time, General Mills, and they owned Parker Brothers. I went out to work for Parker Brothers Choice and Games. I had a great run for three years. They spun the company off, one day, I went into work, the receptionist said, “Doug, the senior vice president would like to see you.” I went up to his office and he said, “Doug, your position has been eliminated. You need to be out of here by noon today.” Nine years of my career with General Mills was over in a snap. I went home to my wife, my two small children, and my one large mortgage, feeling every bit of the victim. That was the illustrious start to my career. I’ve been told that I should look for another job, and ultimately I was being fired.

TSP Doug Conant | Being An Effective Leader

Being An Effective Leader: Getting in touch with yourself is absolutely essential to every leader.

 

That alone, there’s so much to unpack and then we want to continue this story. I also grew up in the suburbs of Chicago. I grew up in Elk Grove Village outside of O’Hare Airport and we used to wave at the planes. I used to swim competitively and that is also an individual sport for the most part. You’re in the water by yourself, you might be part of the team but were doing your thing. Do you think you learned any leadership lessons subconsciously hitting that tennis ball over and over against the wall? Whether it be discipline or focus, any takeaways from that, now looking back?

I wrote a blog on life lessons learned from the game of tennis. I had a baker’s dozen life lessons and absolutely, I did learn a lot. First of all, I got more in touch with myself, which is essential for every leader. I learned how to compete, how to perform under pressure. Also, through tennis and in teaching tennis, I learned how to engage with people who were hungry to get some help. Tennis was foundational to the start of my life in business. Competitive sports help that, you have to move beyond it. It proved to be a great foundation. When I was working, I would see people, when we were starting our careers, wilting under the pressure because they were so anxious. I was more comfortable. I was still an introvert, not quite comfortable, but I was good enough to be able to hold my own under pressure. In the fullness of time, I became comfortable.

I talk about that all the time, people get butterflies in their stomach especially when they have to present in front of their peers. I tell people that the goal is not to get rid of the butterflies but to get them to fly in formation. You talked about the five Ps, one of them is not plastic, just for the readers. It’s price, packaging, promotion, and all that good stuff. You said something about your lessons learned at General Mills, which is important no matter what the industry is. That is, “Market through the consumer’s eyes and not the manufacturer’s eyes.” That I saw happening in the computer industry, in the dot-com boom. They would make some hardware then assume that somebody was going to figure out how to use it. If you start from the consumer’s perspective, that’s valuable. What was happening that made that boss write, “You should look for another job?” Was that a shock or did you anticipate that?

I came off the tennis tour. I had taken three months off. My first day of work at General Mills, I had a khaki suit, a yellow shirt, a big wide tie. I had something that most of your followers wouldn’t know, brown Earth shoes on. I had an afro, a full man shoe, and a tan line from where my headband had been. I went to work at a place where everybody was wearing white shirts and blue pinstripe suits. It was a rude awakening and I had never worked in an office before. I had a slow start and I worked hard. I was bright enough to do it, but I had to get acculturated. The first three months were tough, the next few months, I started to hit stride. My boss saw that, but his boss didn’t see beyond first impressions. His boss was not particularly sensitive to my situation. He didn’t care. He got my attention.

The other thing you and I share is I had a career at Condé Nast and got laid off after years back in 2008. You were at GM. I actually did a whole TEDx Talk on being a lifeguard of your own life. This concept of resilience, how do we bounce back when we get our identity so tied up with our career? I’m fascinated to let you continue the story of you coming home, you have this big mortgage and children to support. You’ve got to lick your wounds and not stay a victim.

What we covered triggers one more thought around looking at the world through the eyes of the consumer. That’s also how I believe you have to lead. Looking through the eyes of the people you’re leading. You have a clear sense of direction, and you have a sense of purpose. You have a philosophy about leadership, but you do have to look through the eyes of the people you’re leading because leaders need followers. You need to be viewing the world through the eyes of your followers so that you can adjust your leadership accordingly. The consumer marketing perspective has helped me with a leadership perspective. In terms of when I lost my job, the best thing that happened to me is that they sent me to an outplacement counselor that afternoon.

I called him and he answered the phone. “My name is Neil McKenna. How can I help?” Neil McKenna became a mentor in my life. That one day had the lowest moment in my career when I was fired, and one of the highlights of my career was meeting Neil McKenna on the same day. I’m old, this is before caller ID or cellphone. When I called Neil, every time he answered the phone, he would say, “Hello, this is Neil McKenna. How can I help?” You could have been the plumber and he would be saying that. What he did by just saying that is, it welcomed you in. He created a platform for conversation where he was listening to where you were coming from. I went over there and he guided me through an outplacement process which was difficult for an introvert.

He led me through a process that strongly influences the thinking in our book The Blueprint. He helped me get in touch with the real me. I was struggling just like most of us, there was the work me and me beyond work. They were two different people. I posted a small little piece from Warren Buffett on LinkedIn and Twitter. Basically, I said, “Get rid of the mask.” You need to be one with who you are personally and professionally. It needs to be one. I believe that and Neil helped me get to a place where I could show up authentically and also continue to grow and contribute in an increasing way, because authenticity alone, I find is not enough.

You need to know what you’re doing too. You need to keep growing into your leadership. You’re getting a little better tomorrow than you are today. With Neil’s help, I found that when you marry this notion of authenticity with the concept of growth, you can lift your leadership to new heights in a very practical way. That strongly influenced the book. The only other thing I’m just touching on Neil McKenna. Since I worked with Neil, I have brought a how I can help mentality to every day I go to work. Every time I’m at home, I’m at church it’s, how can I help? That’s the lens that I choose to look through life at, and it’s been life-changing for me.

In the introduction to The Blueprint book, you talk about the raw materials of change that are already within you. You quote Arthur Ashe, of course, the famous American tennis player, “Start where you are, use what you have, do what you can.” The irony for me reading that, Doug, was that I quote, Arthur Ashe in my keynotes about confidence. He is also known to say, “The key to success is confidence, and the key to confidence is preparation.” We both admire him and use his philosophy in different ways. Yours is about leadership. Mine is about selling. When I opened your book, and I saw that quote, I thought, “I am so excited to read this and so excited to interview you.” When you click with certain people, you don’t always know why. When you have all these signals, and that was one question I wanted to ask you. Did you notice similarities between Nabisco, Campbell Soup and Avon, that those skillsets that you could apply across all those different companies of what it takes in addition to this authenticity, and the power of can I help mindset?

First of all, Arthur Ashe, I was on his foundation, and I worked with his wife. He’s a member of what I call my entourage, people I carry with me, who even though they may not be with us, they are with me in spirit. Arthur is one of those people because he achieved excellence in my sport, but he also transcended that sport with his civility and his desire to be a social change agent. He showed that all things are possible. I strongly believe that as well. You can’t go wrong if you walk in Arthur Ashe’s shoes if only for a moment in time. The key I found, in terms of across all of my work experiences and we talked about three companies, but every day is a new adventure. With a new meeting, a new group, a new stakeholder, and different boards I was on. I found that the key to having an impact was being tuned in to the here and now with a clear sense of where we were trying to go long-term.

I’ve written about this need to be a leadership time traveler. We actually have to perform. To be effective leaders, we’ve got to be brilliant in three time zones at the same time. We have to remember and honor the past. We have to perform in the present in such a way that we don’t compromise the future. Every effective leader has got to be thinking three time zones, across everything they do. I thought Arthur did that, he was effective in the present, but he saw a need to do things better in the future. He championed that while saying, “The present isn’t good enough, but it’s where we are, and we can make it better tomorrow.” He kept putting one foot in front of the other in an inspiring way. That was true at Nabisco, at Campbell Soup Company, and at Avon.

The other thing I would say, which will connect to the book, you’ve got to be incredibly connected to who you are. Stuff is coming at you seventeen ways from Sunday. We all feel as if we’re trying to get a sip of water from the fire hydrant of life every day. Think of a fire hydrant cap coming off, and this water is just washing over you. That’s life in nowadays world. You don’t have time to think about, “How am I supposed to respond to this with my professional self?” You don’t have time to play the game. In my opinion, you have to be incredibly in tune with who you are. You have to be able to respond to these challenges authentically. Most people, I have found, are not in touch with who they are. They’re not in touch with their many gifts, they haven’t done the self-exploration required to be able to show up on demand in a way that’s highly authentic.

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What I have found is one of the first steps to becoming a better leader is to envision where you want to go but then to reflect deeply on your life experiences and harvest those to show, “How do I want to walk in the world? What cues from my past have influenced me in my life?” I’ve talked about two of them. I’ve talked about Neil McKenna, and how can I help. We just talked about Arthur Ashe and do what you can with where you are. I carry those lessons with me personally. They resonate with me being who I am. It makes it much easier to show up with people because I know where I’m coming from. I’ve spent the time reflecting and getting in touch with the leader I want to be as opposed to trying to be the leader I think I’m supposed to be every minute of the day.

TSP Doug Conant | Being An Effective Leader

Being An Effective Leader: If the present isn’t good enough, you have to realize that that’s where you are, and you have to make it better tomorrow.

 

You have a boot camp every quarter on leadership where you talk about being authentic, which we’ve covered, as well as this integrated approach that lets you lead. You have something called the ConantLeadership Flywheel. Can you touch on that? Give us a little sample of what people would get if they took the boot camp and this Flywheel?

What’s cool about boot camp and the flywheel is tangential to that conversation, but I’ll connect it. With the boot camp, it takes about nine hours of pre-work to do this, you’ve got to invest time because I’m only with them for two days. We have a lot to cover. They do nine hours of pre-work reflecting on their past and drawing out highlights, trying to get in touch with their life story. They come and work with me. We try and pick that life story apart to a point where they can draw conclusions about, “Here’s the leader I would like to be based on all the positive life experiences I’ve had.” The grandfather listened to me when nobody else would. The outplacement counselor who said, “How can I help?” The good boss who said, “I’ve got your back.”

We harvest those lessons and we help them create their own leadership model. I believe in this concept of authenticity so powerfully that each one of us has our leadership philosophy, our own leadership model. In two days, we help them harvest all these learning, do a little studying and create their own leadership model. The one on the ConantLeadership Flywheel happens to be my model. It doesn’t work for a lot of people, but it works for me and that’s all that matters. I can go into any situation, looking at the world through that lens, which is my lens, diagnose any situation and come up with, “Here’s how I want to approach it.” In my case, I have eight components, three are at the heart of my model and that’ll be captured in The Blueprint. It’s not up on the website yet.

I have three core components. The first one is, honor people. The second ring is, inspire trust. The third ring is, clarify a higher purpose. Every time I go into an engagement anywhere, I’m focused on honoring people, building trust, and being clear about why I’m there. I then have five pieces that operate around those three rings. One starts by creating direction, getting organizational alignment, building vitality, executing with excellence, and producing extraordinary results. I can go into any leadership challenge, diagnose a situation, figure out where it fits on my model, and come up with a way to approach the challenge.

It gives people a roadmap, especially if they recently got promoted or they’re leading a different group of people than they’ve ever led before. Having this flywheel allows them to say, “What do I need to dial in here to respond to this new challenge?”

Yeah, but they don’t design their flywheel. I have a flywheel. I had a fellow who worked with me, who had a son who could do a Rubik’s Cube in under two minutes. He decided that his model was going to be a Rubik’s Cube, he was trying to solve a puzzle with every challenge. That cube has six sides and those six sides were the six things that he thought about when he was trying to lead. That’s how he managed it in a way that spoke to him in a special way. All my students have to send me a video of them presenting their model. They have to be able to present their model in two minutes so they can demonstrate that they’re fluent with it and get to the high points of it.

He sent me his video and in the lower part of the screen, he had his son doing the Rubik’s Cube. It was a bit distracting but it communicated clearly. Everybody has their own way of looking at this. I’ve had people who are gardeners. I’ve had some women who are gifted. Gifted gardeners who think about preparing the earth, trying to take care of the garden, pruning it back, making sure all the elements are coming in so the plants can flourish, taking care of the roots before they can get the fruits. Those models speak to them in a deep and personal way. The way we construct their models, they leverage all their life learnings so that those learnings support the language they’re using to talk about. All of a sudden, they have a story, and they have a metaphor for leadership that’s uniquely theirs.

One of my former boss, Nina Lawrence, she was a publisher at Condé Nast. She’s an avid gardener and is constantly posting pictures of getting the last fresh flowers of the season. She lives up in Connecticut. All of that, I had never thought of before, in terms of tending the team she managed and getting the most out of all of us like she got the most out of her garden. It’s fascinating to hear you mention that analogy.

It’s incredibly powerful in a busy world where you’re always on and you have to be able to respond in a way you can feel good about on-demand. The other piece of this is, it’s great that I have my leadership model, but that’s not good enough. The people I work with need to know where I’m coming from. They’re not mind readers. The reason I have these people do these two-minute videos is, we encourage them to find a way to share their philosophy with the people with whom they live and work. Everybody who works with me knows that I’m all about honoring people and inspiring trust because I’ve told them. You cannot assume they’re going to know. Most of us, as leaders, are assumptive.

We forget that these people have busier lives than we do. They’re not sitting waiting on the edge of their seat to read our minds, to know where we’re coming from as leaders. It’s our obligation to create clarity in the relationship and to tell them. I also have our folks invite the people they work with to tell them how they think. It’s not a one-way street. It’s a two-way street. All of a sudden, we have this higher understanding of where we’re each coming from, with more clarity around our leadership, we become more effective, more efficient. We’re able to act with integrity with everything we do because we’re doing what we said we’d do.

You talked about bringing courage down to earth in The Blueprint book. Using courage that we have to lead with integrity, authenticity, and a tough mind on standards, and yet with a tender heart towards people. My question is, how does someone toggle between the tough mind on standards and still being tender-hearted towards people?

I grew up a big Chicago Bears fan. I grew up in Glencoe. When I was growing up, George Halas was the coach of the Chicago Bears and Vince Lombardi was the coach of the Green Bay Packers. The predominant mindset was you’ve got to be tough. It wasn’t okay to be tender at all, I was never comfortable with that. I found I always connected better with people and was more effective when I was sensitive to where they were coming from. It just didn’t make any sense to be tough and intimidating all the time, especially knowing that I’d be polluting that relationship when I wasn’t in the room. I started this language about being tough-minded on standards and tender-hearted with people years ago. I found that the key to this whole thing is having what Stephen Covey, one of my mentors would say is an abundance mentality.

To be a leader, you do have to be tough-minded on standards and you need to be tender-hearted with people so they’ll engage in the journey with you. It’s not either/or, it’s both. Jim Collins, another friend used to say, “Doug, you’ve got to embrace the genius of the end, and you’ve got to reject the tyranny of the or.” I’m listening to this and it makes so much sense to me. As a leader, you don’t have a choice, you have to maintain high standards. I would also assert that if you want to be a leader that has an enduring impact with an organization, you don’t have a choice, you also have to be sensitive to the needs of people. I’ve spent a whole career doing both. It’s hard sometimes, but it’s what’s demanded.

You also talked about in the book, The Blueprint, the anatomy of leadership competence. There are three cues of competence. There’s intellectual, IQ, we all are familiar with that, and taking the test. Then there’s the big buzzword that’s been around for a while, emotional intelligence, which is all of this importance with your ability to show empathy and not just react. The one you talk about is FQ, which I’m less familiar with, which is functional intelligence. I would love you to describe it a little bit. If you wouldn’t mind, the second part of my question is, how did the IQ, EQ and FQ all work together?

First of all, if we go back to tough-minded on standards and tender-hearted with people, the IQ piece has to do with assessing a situation and looking at the cold, hard facts and processing information quickly and clearly, thinking through an issue. The emotional intelligence requires thoughtfulness but also feeling your way through the issue. That’s more of the tender-hearted with the people side of the equation. The third piece that we’re talking about, FQ, is something that I made up. I call it the functional quotient. You also have to know what you’re doing with your discipline.

If you wanted to be brilliant at a podcast, you have to have good IQ because you’ve got to process a lot of stuff quickly. You have to have good EQ because you have to connect with whoever you’re interviewing and your audience. You have to have good FQ, you have to know how to run a fine podcast. You need to know the discipline of a podcast. I was put in a sales role once, which was hilarious because I was an introvert and couldn’t play golf. I didn’t know the sales discipline well, but I had good IQ. I could think through things.

I had good EQ, I could feel my way through things. That’s enough initially, I have found to be able to go into any situation. Ultimately, if you’re in charge of discipline, whatever discipline it is, you have to be a student of that discipline in order to reach full proficiency. I found that FQ is essential if you want to start to contribute fully to whatever discipline you’re working in. It’s not good enough just to be a generalist, to be smart and to be feeling. You need to know what you’re talking about too, unlike our friends in Congress these days.

TSP Doug Conant | Being An Effective Leader

Being An Effective Leader: Every time you go into an engagement anywhere, you have to focus on honoring people, building trust, and being clear about why you’re there.

 

There are many ways people can interact with you. If you go to ConantLeadership.com, you can find the book, The Blueprint, so people can buy the book. They can also explore on the website whether the boot camp is something for their team. You’re a keynote speaker, you’re the only former Fortune 500 CEO who has a New York Times best-selling book, a Top 50 Leadership Innovator, and a Top 100 Leadership Speaker. As if that’s not enough, you’re also the Top 100 Most Influential Authors in the world. A lot of companies are bringing you in to talk to them on a variety of topics. The one that I resonate with is championing engagement to win in the workplace, that the soft stuff is the hard stuff. Doug, is there anything, one last thought you want to leave us with on any one or all three of those areas?

In nowadays world, I’ve been doing this a long time and it’s an old buzzword now, but the key to success is to create a high-engagement culture. I have found, if as a leader you get engaged in the lives of the people with whom you work, they will become engaged in the agenda of the enterprise. Quite frankly, it doesn’t work any other way. If you want them fully engaged, they’ve got to know you have their back and they’ve got to know you’re paying attention and that you care, but that you also have high standards. It’s not just, let’s hold hands and sing Kumbaya. They want to know they’re associated with an enterprise that has high standards, that performs but cares about its people, too. You can do that.

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The key to success is to become well-anchored as a leader in who you want to be and how you want to show up. Commit to bringing more authenticity to the workplace, and commit to growing in your ability to contribute, and then contributing in ways that help the enterprise move forward. That is a winning proposition. I would say, each one of us, as individuals, owes it to ourselves and the people with whom we work, to be the best version of ourselves we can be. These people are counting on us. I treat this whole leadership conversation and leadership in total as a craft. We are walking on sacred ground, we are affecting people’s lives every day. We owe it to them to be the best version of ourselves. Everything in The Blueprint is leading us to a place where we can become the best versions of ourselves.

I’ll close on one last thought related to it is, what’s different about The Blueprint and my philosophy is, it’s anchored in the real world. I’m not someone who talks about leadership but has never led anything. It’s written by someone who’s been there and done that for over 40 years. Started out at the lowest level you could at an organization and worked his way up through a variety of trying circumstances. What I brought to it is a degree of pragmatism that the change process we talked about is actually designed to fit in the middle of your cockamamie life without changing a thing.

If you think about all the people that go on diets after the holidays, “I’m going to get my diet under control, and I’m going to lose twenty pounds.” About one month into it, they say, “I can’t sustain this, it doesn’t fit into my life.” We’ve taken that into account. This is the first process I know that has taken into account the crazy life we lead and is designed to help you become a leader in a way that fits in the middle of your cockamamie life. That’s what I’m most proud of. It’s a practitioner’s eye towards the evolution of you as a leader.

If you want to get unstuck and get a blueprint book that’s going to show you how to be the best version of yourself, this is a book for you. Thanks again, Doug.

Good luck to you.

 

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Martial Arts Leadership Skills with Aslak de Silva

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24.07.19

TSP Aslak | Martial Arts Leadership Skills

 

Episode Summary:

Leadership skills can be honed from any discipline, especially martial arts. Aslak de Silva, the CEO of Nordic Business Forum, has successfully used his background in martial arts in being a word-class experience leader. Aslak who now speaks about sales, digital marketing, and leadership in general credits this to his early days in martial arts and the lessons he learned from becoming better every day and letting go of perfectionism. In this episode, he shares how he started achieving success and how he learned the value of learning principles. He also illustrates what happens behind the scenes in the Nordic Business Forum and how the audience can also benefit from the immense value that these conferences generate.

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Martial Arts Leadership Skills with Aslak de Silva

My guest is all the way from Finland. His name is Aslak de Silva. He’s the CEO of the Nordic Business Forum. He’s also a keynote speaker. He feels that personal and team development are what makes him thrive. He is a world-class experience leader at C-levels. He has the Nordic Business Forum where he tracks over 10,000 executives a year to visit the conference and more than 20,000 people watched the live stream. He’s an international speaker doing 30 to 40 events a year. He speaks about sales and digital marketing, leadership in general. He also happens to have a background in martial arts. He gets people like George Clooney to attend his events. He’s great on knowing what makes a good talk and how to make a good pitch. Welcome to the show.

Thanks for having me here.

I want to ask you to take us back. You can go back as far as you’d like. You’ve got your degrees in business. You went on to get your Master’s in International Management, but how do you go from that to being the CEO of something as big and exciting as the Nordic Business Forum?

My first big career step was in martial arts. I started to train when I was twelve. I had a Korean master who was a very old school of martial arts. Even if you entered competitions and it didn’t matter who won the medals, it was more than you develop every day. You become better every day that way. The training wasn’t only about doing a particular technique or winning a tournament, it was more than every day you need to be better. It’s a harsh school because you can’t celebrate anything, that you see your mistakes. That got into me and I started to understand that, “How can I make every day better?” It means don’t make the same mistakes today as you did yesterday. Do something a bit better. In the end, it comes down a lot and you start realizing that you can learn a lot every day from anybody you meet or you can decide the way you want to go. If you want to go do yes or no or right or wrong, then life becomes quite simple. Long story short, I trained intensely for fifteen years. I was competing, I won a championship in one particular martial arts. I had about twenty clubs. I was teaching in the Nordic and in different countries: Norway, Sweden, Finland and Denmark. I had a couple of injuries.

I knew at the same time that you can’t play only one card. You need to have a backup plan. At the same time, I was studying, so I thought studying is a good thing to do because it’s about development. You learn new things and you want to focus on something. I thought in martial arts, you look people in the eyes all the time and you learn how to develop yourself. To me in the end, that was leadership. That’s dealing with people. That directed me to study also International Management. I felt already the international background living in different countries. I was intrigued by learning leadership and international management a lot.

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Let me ask you a couple of questions there. This concept of becoming better every day, does that help you let go of being a perfectionist and not beating yourself up when you do make mistakes?

Yes, I’ve been reading your book, John. You are a fan of that too. It is true. In the beginning, it’s hard because you do see mistakes and you get frustrated. I remember when I went to the competition, you felt that you could do better, but something is pulling you back in a way that somehow you’re stressful or nervous or you’re afraid of something. Those were the worst feelings. You control yourself and your mind. What I learned was how to prepare myself for the fight in a way that I could do my best. That felt good. If you do your best, you’re happy. It’s not about you’re perfect because you’re going to put yourself down on saying, “I made a mistake.” If you did your best at that time, you learn from the mistakes. You know that next time you will not do the same thing again. That’s a relief for you when you understand that perfection is something that you will never get into, but also sometimes you don’t know what that is, but you can always become a bit better. That’s very motivating for your development, that you know how to become better every day. You’ll know that you’ll be better. Even if now you didn’t win, you know that tomorrow you might win again.

As far as that mindset, because it is how I’m anxious, I’m stressed, I have some fear. I’m big on putting faces on the fear. Is it fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of the unknown and figuring out how to deal with it? A lot of people are afraid of failure, especially when it comes to leadership. If you are a leader, you are like, “I can’t let my team ever see me fail or my team is so afraid of failing, they’re not taking chances.” What are your thoughts on that?

I do remember the times when you say, “Fake it until you make it.” You want to be something that you are not because you put it up in a way that you pep talk yourself that you can do it. You can get far with that and that’s totally fine. It also collapses the moment that you realized that, “I’m not that person.” As long as you’re honest to yourself, mistakes happen all the time. I was talking to my daughter and I was laughing, whatever I do, she says sometimes that I do a mistake. As a father, what do you do? When you realize that she’s unhappy about it or there’s something wrong, it’s just happened. Sometimes she thinks a different way. The same way in leadership also, I strongly believe that because it’s a human attraction that we’re talking about. We are not the same. If you can feel yourself doing your best and truly believe in yourself that you are doing the best you can with the right attitude, right spirits in all way and helping people. The outcome will be good. You’re not perfect. You’ll still make mistakes. If you worry about them too much, you cannot control yourself either and collapse there.

Take us on this journey that you’ve been on. You graduate with this International Management degree. You get involved in selling media. Talk about what that experience taught you. What are some of your secrets on selling?

When I was training martial arts, we did demos to people showing and going through what the martial arts is about. I did about 500 of those in different countries. I performed on TV. You can show physical sometimes, but you need to be explaining something. I learned how to explain. Even if I was exhausted, I’m always talking. People were asking, “How does this differ from other martial arts? What do you learn there?” I’m talking about these things and nuances. I always started in a way that, “What do you know about martial arts?” If the person said, “It’s not too much. Maybe karate or judo,” then I explain with that level that, “This is a bit similar to karate or judo, but maybe train more on your physical side as well.” If somebody was a super expert talking about nuances, “I’m going to mix martial arts training and I know these things there,” then I would talk on that level. I noticed that when I talk with people, you need to be able to talk the same language that they understand. Whereas I noticed that many people and I also, in the beginning, was super excited about what I’m doing. I try to teach everybody everything that I knew. I was talking about this is something that I learned. They’re looking at people in the eyes and seeing that they don’t understand me.

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We have an expression here that’s like drinking out of a fire hydrant. It’s too much, too soon.

I realized that is sales in a way. That’s a conversation with people that you’re trying to teach something there that you love and you know about. You need to level up with the other one that you’re talking with the same language. You clarify for them. I could see that I could sell martial arts class to beginners or even the advanced one. That makes them intrigued about what I know and what we are training. I noticed how to talk with people. The other thing is in martial arts, when you go into a fight, you look at the person in the eye all the time. You’re reacting to what they are doing. You sense the feelings that they have. Are they confident or are they nervous? You can see when are they moving forward, what happened?

I was focused on observing what the other one is doing based on how I move, how they move. The fight in total to me, in the end, was observations of things that are happening. I graduated in International Management. I also thought that I have no technical skills or anything. The only thing I can do is to be with people. I thought that sales is something that you can also have the same attitude as with martial arts that you start somewhere, but you can develop yourself to become better. The results are quite easy to measure. I thought that this is something that I would love. That’s how I ended up in sales.

Sales is a conversation. Meet your audience where they are now. From there, you know exactly how to customize what you’re talking about, not too high, not too complicated. You went into media sales. You got some experience with selling using your martial arts experience. How did you get involved with the Business Forum?

Basically, in sales what happened was that in the beginning, I was not that good. I started with telesales. I remember picking up the calls and selling magazines. That was the first one, subscriptions for magazines and I didn’t like it. I knew that if I get credited in somehow, I can move forward and get a better place to work for. I had no experience of working. I was training and teaching. I thought that it had no value. For summer, I was working on a magazine subscription. I was the sixth-best in the month of July in selling magazines in Finland for a particular company. There were 500 salespeople. I took that diploma and said that the telesales is not going to be a problem. I was going for companies that have a better product that they were talking about content marketing or most solution-based. That’s what I loved.

Being able to talk with people and understand what they want and pitch it back, “If I have something to offer, this is how you work.” I got lucky in sales. There are a lot of books there. I started reading them and taking classes. I got promoted to be a country manager in a company called Mediaplanet in Finland. They’re running twenty people there. I realized that I want to develop my leadership skills as well because when you’re leading people, there you go. A few days later, I run with Nordic Business Forum. It was from the same town that I was born. I had heard about the story and they were bringing these world-class speakers to Finland. They had that time, Al Gore, Jack Welch and Brian Tracy and so on.

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I was like, “They are coming here. This may be something that I would go for.” I was used to learning from the master. I’m used to listening to people on stage, observing everything that they are saying and I was writing notes. I managed to get into one of those events. I remembered the first speaker was Jim Collins. I have read the book, Good to Great. When he was speaking, I was like, “This is it for me.” I can listen to him live, make my notes and I can even ask questions there if I have some. I noticed that there were people around who were doing the same and I felt that group spirit that this is now the right group to be. Ever since I’ve been a customer of Nordic Business Forum, all the events they had in Helsinki, Sweden and Oslo, also as a sponsor there with my company that I was working before. I thought that was the best place to be.

Now you’re an international speaker yourself. What’s the name of some of your favorite keynotes that you give?

I’m not that good a speaker as you are. I’m not that recognized. I talk about depending on what people want to talk. I talk about sales and marketing alignment like how to work together and how to learn from each other. Lately, people have been more interested in knowing what you can take from martial arts to sales and leadership. I take those learnings that I’ll get in other principles of the old style of martial arts and the principles of lifelong learning, and what does that mean in real life when you work?

I could see that being a TEDx Talk for you, the secrets from martial arts applied to leadership. That’s fantastic. I love the journey of going from selling something on the phone to now you’re the Chief Executive Officer of the Nordic Business Forum. Tell us a little bit about what that is and why people should make the effort to come and experience it, the leadership experience they get. Tell us what it is that people can understand and why people from all around the world are coming?

To start, what Nordic Business Forum is we need to have to go for the founding story because that explains the spirit of how everything is happening. The two founders: Hans-Peter Siefen and Jyri Linden, they met at college when they were studying. Their friends introduced them to themselves. They were both doing some sales stuff in different companies. They had been to seminars and thought that might be something that they want to go for, arranging seminars themselves or conferences. They had their first seminar in 2009 and about 80 people attending $10 per ticket. Already they said, “This is going so well. Why don’t we go for international scope?” They changed the name in 2011 to be Nordic Business Forum.

Hans-Peter had a skiing accident and he was in the hospital. They had to come up with a theme of responsibility. He used that time in thinking the concept where you have one question. He had a question of, “Who would be the best speaker of responsibility?” He was writing down all the answers that come to his head. He came up with Al Gore. He was excited that 2011 that Al Gore was a big thing and talking about these things. He went back to Jyri and said, “Now I know who we will get as a keynote speaker, Al Gore.” Jyri said, “That’s a nice idea, but that’s next to impossible because Al Gore doesn’t come to Jyväskylä to Central Finland. They Googled the name and tried to get his number and find Al Gore’s office number. That was Hans-Peter’s first international call and they got to talk to the team.

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A few months later, they got the yes from Al Gore. The problem was that Al Gore wants an upfront fee for the speaker to be paid because it’s in Jyväskylä, Finland that nobody knows. They don’t know if they can trust the arranger and the organization as well. They had to sell their apartments and cars to be able to pay the upfront fee. The next problem was when they had Al Gore coming, they were trying to call people and say that Al Gore is coming to Jyväskylä but nobody believed that’s true. Luckily, people started to believe that this happened. They had other speakers. They were building up and selling tickets.

When Al Gore came to Jyväskylä, they were thinking about how to make the experience as good as possible. They called the mayor of Jyväskylä and said, “Since you have such a nice car, could you pick up Al Gore from the airport and bring him to the venue?” The mayor said, “Yes.” That says the attitude that you are willing to put everything because you believe that you can make it happen. For them, Al Gore was the best speaker at that subject field so they wanted to get him there. That gave him the best possible experience also to be there is something. This is what we do in Nordic Business Forum, we want every day to become better and make everything the best possible we know. We have learned lots of things. We made lots of mistakes and the experience passes on. We go through the things we have learned, the things we did well and then say, “What can we do better?” This is how it has grown a lot.

I like the lessons you’ve learned from martial arts, every day getting better so that you get better and better. Much so that you’ve got George Clooney coming to your event this October. How did that happen? I’ve never heard of George Clooney speaking at an event in the States, let alone in Finland? Was that difficult to get him to come?

You have to do some pitching skills as well. The same way we’re thinking that the theme for the 2019 event, which is going to be on the 9th and 10th of October in Helsinki, is growth. We were thinking of different themes of growth and how we can actually teach business owners and see them execute. One part is storytelling because that’s part of growth. You also know a lot about that. We were thinking who made the best stories that made a huge business. George Clooney happened to be in a tequila company that was sold for $700 million or $800 million. That’s a good storytelling skill to build up the company brand.

People don’t realize that besides being a political activist and being an Academy Award winner, he’s quite an entrepreneur. He’s in business with Cindy Crawford’s husband, Rande Gerber and gets paid very well for doing a lot of commercials overseas. He’s very connected to the pulse of entrepreneurship. I don’t care where you are in the world. That is one of those where they call in the business a great get. It sets the stage for why people would come and what they would learn. You have other locations as well that are coming up. Obviously, if people can’t make it this October 2019 to Helsinki, there are some other opportunities coming up both in Stockholm and Oslo. Would you tell us about those?

The Oslo Business Forum is going to be at the end of September. It’s quite close to Helsinki. The 2020 dates will be launched a bit later on. Stockholm is going to be on the 21st of September, 2020. The focus of these events is a bit different on the size and the length. In Helsinki, the main event is two days and a full set up with twelve to fifteen speakers. We only have one stage. Everybody’s looking and listening to one stage. Where in Stockholm, we go a bit longer than a half-day, a shorter term, fewer speakers but a concise package. It can be marketing and leadership in that sense. Whereas in Helsinki, we go broad where we will have some economists or professors also building the big picture. The same way in martial arts, my master used to say the technique is just techniques. The understanding of what you do comes from a bigger picture understanding first. You need to learn the principles.

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For instance, in 2018, we were having a couple of lessons on the blockchain. For business leaders, it shouldn’t be technical, what do you do in your business with blockchain? First, you need to understand what the concept means and what it means in the big picture of how it’s going to change the business field in general. Not your industry, not your company but those things. Then you’ll start understanding, “What does it mean to me?” This is the focus of our conferences in general. We were talking about George Clooney. When you learn how he perceives storytelling and what tips does he give? Many will think, “I will never get George Clooney to work with me.” That’s not the point there. You’re lucky if you get, but the point is to understand what he is thinking and you see the best in the world, the big picture. Then you can start thinking about, “What does this mean for my company, my business?”

Let’s give the audience an example of that. I talk about storytelling genres, give examples of a movie and a brand using that storytelling genre to communicate their stories. If people are thinking, “I’m going to come here, George Clooney talks about stories.” Obviously, he’s at the point in his career where he can produce, direct and even decide which one he’s going to star in. He must be able to look at a script and figure out what’s the story genre? Does it resonate with me? From a business standpoint, we can start to look at these genres and say, “Is this what my company is telling the story of?” Stories are what resonate with people and make them memorable. One storytelling genre is a rebirth.

There’s a classic Christmas movie, It’s a Wonderful Life with Jimmy Stewart, of what would have happened if had he killed himself versus staying alive. The impact that we all have. Prudential is a company that uses that storytelling genre. They say, “Your retirement is your rebirth. It’s your third act. It’s not just a continuation of middle age.” There’s a genre, there’s a movie and now I see a brand using it. Another example of that would be leave home, have an adventure and come back and tell about it. If you think of a movie that does that, that’s The Wizard of Oz. If Dorothy had listened to her aunt and went in the cellar, she wouldn’t have gone on that adventure. Expedia, that’s exactly their genre. They encourage people to go book a trip, go to Helsinki, go to Sweden or go to Stockholm. Go have an adventure and go to the NB Forum. Use Expedia to book your trip, come home and tell all your friends about what it was like to hear George Clooney or Seth Godin or anybody else that you’ve got. That brings it to life a little bit about storytelling, genres, movies and how having George Clooney as a storyteller in the movie business can be applied to business.

That was way more interesting to hear than having like a copy text of an advertising campaign. People resonate a lot on that. I truly believe that storytelling in that sense is a skill that every one of us would have to learn.

This has been fascinating. I’ve had the good fortune to get to meet and spend some time with you in person. I was so excited to bring your story to the audience that I am fortunate enough to have around the world in 60 countries. My intent is that people reading this are going to go to NBForum.com. Are there any last thoughts or insights that you want to say about either leadership or having you as a speaker or some encouraging words to get people to consider coming?

The focus of our event is on customers. What we want to do is to be the best in the world in arranging these conferences. Our mission by 2021 is to be the most significant business conference in the world. How that also happens is that the customer experience that people get when they are out there is something different. We have over 100 different places for what can happen. If the audience feels cold, how do we see that you are feeling colder? If you feel thirsty or if you look lost or you’re looking for toilets or if coffee spills on your pants, what do we do? If you lose your Apple pen, what do we do? To experience that because for leaders, especially if you’re talking about growth companies and you want to make it big. You need to understand how you can do that for customers. That’s the best place to see because there are lots of things happening, there are a lot of people at the same place and all that.

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Often people might feel bad or feel that they are not that special. 7,500 people in one place, there comes lines where you’re waiting. How do we deal with that? That is something also to learn because if you get that as a leader, you know how to be treated as a customer well-enough so that you can take that as well. That is one of the pitches that we use a lot. That’s what we’re famous for. We get even more tweets about great customer service that we offer at the events than when we had President Obama on stage. That tells a lot that even though that was a huge thing for us and for the audience, still people value even more the experience that they get there.

That is fascinating because when I was working with the Banana Republic and Neiman Marcus, they were always talking about the definition of luxury as anticipating a need before you know you even need it. The Banana Republic said, “We can’t compete with Neiman Marcus but we can try.” They offered a place to charge your phones when you were shopping at some of their places, Rockefeller Center or big stores so that you go, “That’s a need I didn’t know. I need to have my phone charged while I’m shopping.” The irony is their sales went up because people kept shopping while waiting for their phone to fully charge. Lexus did the same thing. They said, “We’re going to connect your phone to your sound system so that when you’re blaring your music loud and the phone rings, we’re going to turn the volume down so you can hear your phone ring.”

You didn’t know you needed that but it sure is a luxury. When you’re describing you’re lost, you’re cold, you’re confused, coffee spilled, it’s almost like a top-level Concierge Hotel being willing to anticipate. For that kind of volume, it’s not just intellectually hear somebody talk about it, but to come and experience it, they can take those lessons back to their own life and business and make themselves even more productive. That’s such a great takeaway. What a joy to get to know you. I am excited to read about and watch some of the live streaming for the upcoming events. I’m looking forward to attending one myself again.

Thank you, John.

It’s NBForum.com to find out more about you. Are there any other links you want us to mention?

No, that’s fine.

Thanks again. We’ll look forward to hearing all about the exciting lessons learned from your wonderful events.

Thanks, John, for having me here.

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